in many cultures is it's actually good to feel shame. patch amaskita is a researcher at the university of lubin in belgium. she's a pioneer in the cultural psychology. she says there are no hard wired emotions that have the same effect on everyone. even though everyone in the world experience a shame, we don't all deal with it and the same way in many cultures when you feel shame, that's a reason that other people will accept you. and so the consequences of shame are very different. a child who feels shame in taiwan, there is research. there's anthropological research with children who feel shame. well, 1st of all, mothers make change their children and consequently, they comfortably point out what their child did wrong. and they want their child to be a shame. they think that of their child as well braced and well behaved when they, when they feel shame. and then the consequence of feeling shame is, is not that other people reject you, but is actually that other people accept you and that other people feel goods that you acknowledge that you, that you acknowledged your shortcomings in europe a