way to split with the minimum damage to their two children and touting their approach as a gentle unlinkingnd what's being called a collaborative way to uncouple is certainly better than a nasty and protracted legal fight in which children are made to be weapons of choice in a divorce war. color me old-fashioned in still believing that our culture is desperate for more conscious coupling, relationships built on spiritual foundations of sacrificial and unselfish love in which the order of the relationship is spiritual first, emotional and intentional second and in which the physical relationship is the culmination of their love, not the initiation of it. 30 years ago in my previous life as a pastor, i often saw couples who spent more time and money preparing for a 20-minute wedding than preparing for the relationship that was supposed to last them for the rest of their lives. maybe, if we consciously coupled and spent more time and money to prepare for the marriage instead of just the wedding, we wouldn't be oohing and ahhing over the notion of conscious uncoupling. because households of div