the bad news is that we first have to deal with some unpleasantries, things that most of us do not want to think about. we have to take a long, hard look at how violence manifests itself in our society. we have to face up to the ugly record of assaults, rapes and killings happening around us. but how? how can we deal with the limitations imposed by our own limited vantage point? the biggest impediment to positive change may be a personal one. our own inescapable sense that thing must be the way they are. we wonder what we can do, already convinced that the answer is nothing. when viewing the overall pattern of societal violence, we find it difficult to make sense of the chaos. the pattern is obscure, like looking at heavily pixlated images up close and seeing only squares. those searching for answers in black and white may see only judgementenned blocks -- jumbled blocks in no discernible order. but by holding the pixlated image at arm's length, a pattern emerges, a mind shift occurs. it becomes a matter of gaining depth perception and focus. with change and positioning comes change in