. >> those are people who are victims of unrecognized trama.hey're successful despite having someone assault their bodies as children. the people in prison, that may have met an early death, that what could have saved them is that someone had hit them more a a child. i hear lots of people say i was hit and i turned out fine. to me that is a sign of brain damage. when you harm the architecture of the brain, while it is developing, it harms memory. a lot of people can't accurately recall the fear, betrayal, and pain they felt because someone was presenting violence to them in the context of love. they have grown up to hold on to the adult justification for why they were assaulted and now averting violence. >> anyone spanked as a child. no matter how successful, well adjusted, how happy they might be, we're all in denial? >> if you grow up to think that violence against you is responsible for your success, there is something deeply wrong. >> what if you think it is discipline. >> discipline is to teach. and when you hit them you say that aggressio