that is unstainable, how can we change that? >> it's disgusting that we don't have the support from the government or the community to stay home and take care of your kid. that's not the issue. i want to go back to what tania said about stripping away guilt. it comes back to judgment and guilt with mum, i don't think you can strip it away. i think women who are mums have guilt forever. it's built in, and i'm a person - i love my job, i love working and never want it to stop. i'm still in tears driving to work, leaving my child with someone else, whether it's at a day care or with my sister. it's gut wrempinging. you canned - just because you want one thing doesn't mean that your heart is not split into a million different places. we have to be honest about that. working mums, stay at home mums, we are all mums. the judgment comes from ourselves and our own insecurities and guilt that we are carrying around. we have to realise all of this is in our control to help each other, instead of getting defensive. >> the community is chim