s hen bee writing for 25 years. it's syndicated in more than 40 papers. thousands seek his advice. one of his busiest days is not valentine'se letters on february 15th drove me crazy because people would write me and say, you know, we went out to dinner and did this and that and came home and we fell asleep and didn't make love, therefore there's a problem in >> which led him to one piece of advice. >> don't dp to dinner and then go home to have sex. have sex and then go out for dinner and you're much less to be writing e-mail on february 15th. ive savidge grew up in chicago, the third of four children in a strict catholic family and was inspired by his own mother. >> i was the gay momma's boy kid at home, and i would be around the ladies pouring out problems, and mother was giving advice. >> savidge isn't afraid to court controversy. >> we can learn to ignore -- in the bible. >> he's been raised conservative with his public disdain of the bible's treatment of homosexuality. and inflames others with his vueps on cheating. >> you think adultery is okay? >> no. >> yes. >> i think there's times and circumstances under which ad