has done, and the guy will take it out on his wife >> i used to be a real angry (sound dips) >> wallace smith is a peer counselor here. thirty years ago, he voluntarily checked himself into a batterers intervention group for abusing his ex-wife >> this is the best thing that ever happened to me, coming to this group. if i hadn't came to this group, thirty years ago, i'd probably be dead today or on death row because that's the kind of mind set i had. >> anyway you can abuse a person i abused her. calling her the bad names, verbal abuse, trying to control every move of her life >> so did it ever get violent or was it just like verbal? >> oh yea, oh yea, it got real violent. i remember one time i broke her jaw because she cooked the wrong food. this is hard to say but i raped her one time because she was my wife and i thought that she was my property and i could do with my property as i pleased, and that was bad and that was hard for me to get over with. i came from an abusive home where i seen my father abuse my mother on a daily basis, and i didn't want my kid to grow up that way. i figured i