i'm a good enough mother, to quote winnicott. what does that mean? pie. it isn't all... it's a tough enough station, i think, as we call it in ireland. and mothers are often idealised. so how do you get over the idealised state of being a mother, which means that you must be lovelier in many different ways? 0r terrible! you know, there's so much projection and psychology around how we view motherhood. the work of donald winnicott, who was a child psychiatrist in the �*50s in england, and he got the phrase the "good enough mother". i mean, freud was blaming mothers for everything that went wrong with their children, full stop. and winnicott came in and allowed a little bit of human space...in that relationship. so you, from the very beginning of this conversation, we've talked about your sort of upbringing and your rootedness in ireland. you seem to suggest to me that there's something particular about the family in ireland that may be different from some other societies, maybe even from neighbouring britain. you say, you know, "in ireland, it's partl