to wylie o'hara, the year 1959. daughter was 14, and she's in her first year at saint timothy school -- or he is in the first year at saint timothy school. >> guest: she is. c-span: she. i'm sorry. >> guest: yes. c-span: in maryland. the point of that letter? >> guest: the point of that letter is to tell wylie o'hara that her childhood has ended, she's now going forward as an adult. she's reached the time of her life that she's been looking forward to all along growing up, and that she has to do things -- he tells her life is tough and you need a little bit of toughening. and in order to become tougher, you have to do it yourself. you have to do things you don't want to do. you have to make yourself be with other people. both he and she are shy people. so he tells her that he is making himself go out and be with other people, and she needs to do the same, because the only real discipline is self-discipline. c-span: did you find yourself ever changing your mind about something because of a letter that you'd read? abo