they let youtaority over someone. if someone violates their duty, you get to blame and shame them.you get to call them out. you make them feel it's righteous, not the only tool that we have in our tool on the other end, i want to go. someone else i know my not like duty and obligation like reasons. you've got reasons to do stuff too. okay so my favorite example of how i think about the difference between reasons and duty. i was driving home with my nd she said, now we were turning in my neighborhood off a vwas large, clearly like turtle crossing this busy daddy daddy, you have to save the turtle. make. i was like, oh god, i'm definitely about to out into traffic to save a turtle. ani. and here's th'm thinking about i pull over in our neighborhood, look back and that turtle is going to like 55 on this road. so like, okay, stay here and i out and i'm like flagging down people making myself as big as possible, like pointing like hold on, i'm walking in traffic, just chill. and i grabbed the turtle and i walked like 100 yards into the weeds and pointed in the opposite direction. and, y