position and hierarchy. fletcher mosquito is currently preparing a new study with her japanese colleague yukiko, who she does. it will look at self criticism in shame and romantic relationships. they're still working out the exact methodology, the, which isn't the starting point and maybe see the same about that too. that's maybe this is again, this is the starting point to look at the home fix. read that may be can be changeable. yeah. and then the, the, the, the motivation. yeah. i'm in that sense it's, it may be a painful feeling but not, not only negative. good. they've studied how couples from japan, belgium, in the us deal with conflict for the japanese, it was difficult. the tend to try to avoid conflict relying on self criticism in shame, and not only in romantic relationships. people may experience the same emotion, but they have very different ways of dealing with it. and it can have different consequences for our lives. shame itself is neither good nor bad. it may have constructive or destructive effects depending on the values of the group to which we feel we belong as all um yeah,