me now derek is yvette cade a survivor of a vicious attack by her abusive husband 7 years ago when henered you poured gasoline on you set you on fire 60% of your body burned also joining is your adult daughter champagne thank you for being here laid. >> thank you. >> you tried to use protective orders but it wasn't enough. >> it was not enough. getting a protective order is only a piece of paper. at that point you are really in danger by the perpetrator. my ex-husband, we were separated for 10 months, and i thought that, you know, things were going to go well and i could get my divorce, but that only set his anxiety and wanted to know what i was doing and made him very angry. >> and now you've gone from being a victim to an advocate, and you were telling may earlier you tell women getting that support network letting co- workers know what's going on, what do you tell women who are trying to get out? >> i tell women that you need to have a plan. you can call the house of ruth, the national domestic violence hotline and just get all the support that you can. you need to let as many peop