and in this approximate silence we have felt that not regreting has spared us loneliness. called at the door. you did not tell me about these hours, how thick they were and wounded. i hear myself telling someone to punch me just to figure the order of my beliefs. someone else in my clothes who would view this and move on. explain again the conditions that will bring along the morning and what it is here that convenes the night. and then the last poem is called upon living. they shove your feet out of the smokestack kitchen. they narrow the big sea sba a line of your sweat and then they take away your last word and then they take away another. now you put the keys back in your pocket and now you push on the door until it is in flame, until it is in flame. next reader is jane herschfield. . >> one sand grain among the others in winter wind. i wake with my hand held over the place of grief in my body. depend on nothing, the voice advices, but even that is useless. my ears are useless, my familiar and intimate tongue, my protecting hand is useless that wants to hold the single

psychology professor says if you over indulge in other people's lives, you can experience a feeling of loneliness, isolation and sometimes even depression. >> who is married, who is having children, who is doing we will in their career. when you see people having things that either you don't have and you want or that you have but it's not going as well, it can make you feel worse and much more likely to feel depressed. >> reporter: she says teens are at a greater risk of having a negative reaction. whatever your age, the more you compare on facebook, the worst your depression can be. >> i'm enviews when i see -- three beautiful children. you are comparing yourself to people you grew up with. >>> so how do you get out of the funk? step away from expert. you shouldn't believe everything you read. just remember that what is on facebook is what that person wants to world to see. why you may feel more connected when you're online. you may want to try interacting with people in person. >> it is hard to pull away. >> you know, you start to post things. after a while, it's nice to kind of get away. >> go

talk about about that loneliness factor. >> guest: that in particular in the oldest old, i mean, one of the reasons that it has and it may well be true is that women do better as widows and india as widowers is women have more women friends. and this is true. women relate to other women more closely throughout their lives. at least now. that may not be true in a generation from now, but still, than men do. but when a woman lives to be really old into her 90s, then because she is the oldest of the old survivors, she begins to lose her female friends also. my grandmother, i did -- she did live to be 99, i talked to her a lot about this. one of the things she said to me was, she was a person who always made younger friends throughout her life. if anybody had as good and old age as you could into you can't, she did. but she said one of the hardest things about being in her 90s is she outlived everyone who didn't see her as this old woman, but who remembered her as the young and vibrant girl and woman that those people were all gone. and, of course, you can have friends of all ages and go

. >> we're both show business children, had no childhood to speak of, and went through the loneliness of that. >> couric: today violet flowers, the color of her eyes, cover that star on the hollywood walk of fame. in january, she tweeted to her fans: elizabeth taylor was 79. in addition to her children, elizabeth taylor is survived by ten grandchildren and four great grandchildren. and of course many, many friends, including bill and hillary clinton who said: we'll take another look at elizabeth taylor's work in the fight against aids later in this broadcast. now turning to libya where moammar qaddafi's hold on power may in face be slipping. allied air strikes tonight reportedly targeted his compound. coalition planes also bombed qaddafi forces today in mizurata to stop them from firing artillery at civilians. defense secretary robert gates says he can't predict how long the operation will last, he did say the u.s. could transfer control of it to allied by saturday. meanwhile, house speaker boehner wrote to president obama today to complain that the mission's goals are not clearly def

. >> rose: what does this loneliness to do you? what is the consequence >> people have done a variety of research on this. stress, illness. >> rose: being alone and loneliness, are they the same thing? >> absolutely not that's a good point. but you're safer to be around others. >> rose: (laughs) exactly. what did you do when there were conflicting studies? how did you decide? (laughs) >> well, i tried to play it safe. so i get on those e-mail lists and i tried to not use individual studies. i tried to rely on books and things like that the giants in the field had written to sort of sort the field out and i tried to be safe. there were times when this was frankly impossible. the field was so disputatious and there were so many different things about the role of i.q. and other things. it's often hard to find one thing everyone will agree on and there are times when i'm sure people will say i hired a fact checker, i hired someone to red read through it so i wouldn't make gross errors but i'm sure they're in there. i've done my best. i

. >> hinojosa: and you write about the sadness and the loneliness that exists for african-american women in politics. it's a very specific kind of topic. it's not like a lot of people are walking around thinking, "hmm, i wonder how african-american women who get involved in the political system, whether or not they're feeling sad." >> yeah, well again, remember what i said: i think professors are always writing books about themselves. >> hinojosa: so does that mean that you want to run for office? >> oh, gosh, no, although, you know, my partner is in fact running for office, and so i am... >> hinojosa: in the city of new orleans. >> in the city of new orleans he's running for mayor, and so i'm, you know, intimately involved in a campaign in a way that i never have been before. >> hinojosa: but you're also a big critic. you're a big political critic. this is what you do when you're on the cable news shows talking. you are... and i find it very interesting that you'rlike "yup, and i'm going to marry a man who's trying to run for mayor in new orleans" of all places! >> ( laughing ) >> hinoj

gafaling addiction, loneliness, depression, shopping addiction, everyone needs help at one time or another >> absolutely. we look forward to hearing at. >> you continue to grow and mixed fans to people who are watching it and i'm coming back to this because there are so many people saying i want to do that. i know a long the way it's a very positive person probably have -- tell any a time when someone says something that could have stopped you but pushed through to keep going. >> well, i've been discouraged the whole way. >> good or bad. in what i love doing kind of persevering. now and i go ome to family [ laughter ] >> and so as your son is also in this industry, whaadvice would you give him at you wish you would have? >> i wish i would have been more encouraged to think outside the box. you know, as opposed to sitting inside this stereo typical place. and so theadvice i would give him is through you, do you to your fullest and be you jusán, whatever it is you want in life. go get exactly how you want it. i'll help you i'll guide you 2uong heway and i'llnever try to tell you who to be. >

she suffered the loneliness of raising their first son by herself and had a passionate temper while william was away at war. she had another reason to have william close at home. william had fallen into his old habit of gam -- gambling that threatened to wreck their growing family. he wrote to her father with hang dog contrition and wanted support. what was worse, his behavior opened a rift with his own father and sisters. you know not how wretched you made me and cruel to disstress a father who just has a care to see his children happy. he was not a man to be alienated lightly. a rift with him cuts them off from the best source of support. when british power collapsed around her, she followed her impulse and her spouse. my husband would not like the separation, and i positively refuse to remap. not once did she mention the issues of principle involved in leaving her home nor did she note the obvious impetus for the departure. every single one of the relations were prescribed, but in her own telling, she did not leave for reasons of political sentiment, but emotional ones, the bonds of love

she suffered the loneliness of raising their firstborn son, a handsome and st. fellow with a large proportion of his father's passion a temper i'll and limb was away at war. she had acquired another reason to wish william close at hand. william have followed into its old habit of campbell, vice so destructive and ruinous that it tends to write the growing family. he did not reveal the alarming extent of his losses to his wife but wrote to her father imploring liechtenstein to support the family in their need. what was worse, his behavior opened a rift with his own father and sisters. you know not how wretched you have made me and it is cool to distress a father who so wish and care is to see his children happy. not a man to be alienated likely. so when british power collapsed around her in savannah elizabeth johnson followed her impulse and spells. my husband would not like the separation, and i positively refuse to remain. not once did she mention the issues of principle involved in leaving her home. nor more strikingly did she not the obvious and but as for he

she suffered the loneliness of raising their firstborn son, andrew, a quote, and some sweet fellow with a large proportion of his father's passion a temper, while william was away at war. and she acquired another reason to wish william close at hand, for beyond her watch, which had fallen into his old habit of gambling. a vice a destructive and ruinous in its nature, she said, that it threatens to wreck their growing family. he did not reveal the alarming extent of his losses to his wife, but wrote to her father with hang on a petition to support the family and their need. what was worse, williams peter opened a rift with his own offer and sisters. you know not how rich to have made me, he was with zero-point come until to distrust a father whose wish and care is to see his children happy. dr. louis johnston with his wealth and his influential connections was not a man to be alienated lightly. a rift with him what cut off the uncoupled from the best source of support and patronage. when british collapse and on her, he was at johnston followed her impulse and spouse. my husband wouldn't

and all of the negative emotions come from that - worry, anger, resentment, loneliness, frustration, jealousy, envy - it all comes from fear. the mother of all positive emotions is love. love is the epitome of emotional freedom - compassion, hope, connection, courage - all of that comes from love. now, in our world, conventional coping mechanisms just are not sufficient anymore. and i love the line in the film, jaws, 'we will need to have a bigger boat.' i want to share with you a personal example of how negative emotions have impacted my life and how i've worked with them to transform a fear of abandonment that i had. and to understand this, i had to go back to an early event in my life. now, when i was born, my mother had a pulmonary embolism, which is a blood clot to the lung, and she nearly died during the birth. for the first couple weeks of my life, she was bedridden, and at that time i was put in a plastic bassinet in a nursery and i was bottle-fed, and i didn't have a lot of nurturing and touching, and i had no way to orient myself to being in this world. it felt as if i was

your umbrella to block the rain ♪ ♪ and you said you'll protect me from heartache ♪ ♪ pain, loss lonelinessre in the freezing cold ♪ ♪ and i waited for you but you never showed ♪ ♪ where you at where you at ♪ ♪ where you at ♪ boy, you said you would be there for me ♪ ♪ where you at where you at ♪ ♪ where you at where you at ♪ ♪ where you at where you at ♪ ♪ now you said you would go to church ♪ ♪ stop the swearing and find a real job ♪ ♪ and go to work and you said you would ♪ ♪ stay off the streets spend time with me ♪ ♪ take my and fulfill my dreams ♪ ♪ you said you would be the shoulder for ♪ ♪ my eyes to cry on you would be the one ♪ ♪ that i could depend on ♪ ♪ and i stood there in the freezing cold ♪ ♪ but you never showed ♪ ♪ where you at where you at ♪ ♪ where you at where you at ♪ ♪ where you at ♪ boy, you said you would be there for me ♪ ♪ and now i'm without shelter and the wind is blowing ♪ ♪ you said you would be there for me, boy ♪ ♪ when the tough got going stand in front of me ♪ ♪ would be the one to set me free ♪ ♪ thought you were my hero ♪ ♪ but as it turned out you were

womanizer, woman womanizer you're a womanizer ♪ ♪ oh, womanizer, oh you're a womanizer, baby ♪ ♪ my loneliness't stand there watching me follow me ♪ ♪ show me what you can do everybody let go ♪ ♪ we can make the dance floor just like a circus ♪ >> what did you think of some of those moves, huh? the real deal, though, will be on stage again when we come back. britney spears. [ cheers and applause ] v [ cheers and applause ] >>> you have been a wonderful audience. and we have another song from her new album, "femme fatale." >> ladies and gentlemen, are you ready for "till the world ends." ♪ this kitten's got your tongue tied in knots i see ♪ ♪ spit it out 'cause i'm dying for company ♪ ♪ i notice that you got it you notice that i want it ♪ ♪ you know that i can take it to the next level, baby ♪ ♪ if you want this good sicker than the remix ♪ ♪ baby, let me blow your mind tonight ♪ ♪ i can't take it take it ♪ ♪ take no more never felt like ♪ ♪ felt like this before come on get me ♪ ♪ get me on the floor deejay, what you ♪ ♪ what you waitin' for ♪ woah, oh oh, oh, oh ♪ ♪ oh, woah oh, oh, oh ♪ ♪ wo

. ♪ stronger than yesterday now it's nothing but a mile away ♪ ♪ my loneliness ain't killing me no morehusetts. she's a singer and a dancer. she says her dream is to tour. and hear people singing her music back to her. dreams may very well come true one day for rebecca. >> i think we just aired her first video. >> it looks that way. and we need to tell people, this sunday, march 27th, britney will be performing songs from her new album, "femme fatale." >> due to the weather, the performance has been moved indoors to the bill graham civic auditorium. noon eastern. but go to abcnews.com/gma. >>> this tuesday, you can see the very special performance. britney spears, right here on "gma." >> to reiterate, if you want to go to the concert, which will be taped on sunday in san francisco, go to our website. there is seating indoors. we'd love to have you. and we'll air it on tuesday. >>> speaking of outdoors, 31 degrees. if you are here at 4:00, like this group of fans outside, what does that make it feel like right now, sam? >> it makes it feel like a long day. we make you work all morning lo

i was a little lonelier than most. >> you trained for ten years in classical russian ballet. >> yeah.figure that out? >> no. but it took me ten years to stop doing it and trying to get better. i was not good. but that's how i ended up being comfortable onstage. so i owe it a lot. but i was never going to be awesome. >> is there the potential they may have worked that in to the character at all? >> oh, gosh, i hope. i hope not. i mean, i mean they could get some free ballet classes or like a trainer or a little while if they did, which would be awesome. >> and you knit, too? >> i do. i love knitting so much. >> how did that come about? >> well, i started doing it a long time ago to make friends when i first moved to los angeles. i took classes, and i met a whole bunch of nice knitters. and then it turned out to be that there's like a lot of like powerful women knitters in hollywood. so i was making some good connections. >> real power broker types get together? >> yeah. >> you wouldn't think that. >> you'd be surprised. >> i want friends, i want dates i'm going to learn how to knit. >>

loneliness.xactly. the near death experience that came up. i found they didn't really think about it. what happens is whether it's an accident, a tragedy or an illness you start coming head to head with your own mortality. you start questioning your job, friends. >> am i happy, fulfilled. >> and my partner wasn't good during that time. >> this isn't a case of women truly evaluating. >> these are unconscious thoughts that drive you into behaviors that actually end up backfiring, if you will. if women were able to -- and this is part of the tip of how do you help yourself? >> let's get there. >> you have to think about what's going on in your life. i'm scared about dying is not something that should drive you into, so i think i will have an affair. if you deny that you're scared of dying it might. so it's making these things going on in your life that are important conscious instead of leaving them unconscious. >> let's talk about other preventative measures. the first is being honest with yourself