brenda schaefer kisses her mother good-bye and leaves for a date with her fiance. she would never come home. by the early morning hours, anxious family members gather at the home of brenda's parents. brenda's fiance, mel ignatow, a 50-year-old furniture salesman and divorced father of three, is there also. two years earlier, ignatow swept brenda off her feet with roses and expensive jewelry. but her family was hoping for a breakup. >> a man who is much in love with the sound of his own voice. he would not only dominate a conversation, he would be the conversation. >> to brenda's brothers, he seemed arrogant and compulsively neat, especially when it came to his boat. >> you would be sitting there, sipping on a soft drink and set it down on the table. and he would run over and pick it up and wipe the table off. >> did you ever pull your sister aside and say i just don't feel right about this guy? >> it was obvious how everybody felt. we were nice to him when he came around, but she knew. >> by noon sunday, the day after brenda disappeared, police find her car along th