truly a gift. >> meg zucker is here along with family psychologist dr. jennifer hartstein.> a lot of parents we've been in the situation you're embarrassed, mortified with what your child is doing. you say this is a unique gift, it's an opportunity for most parents. it's a teaching moment. why? >> absolutely, and first of all it's for most parents including myself. my kids have done the same type of outburst and it's a gift because it allows us, as i say in the "parents" article it allows when someone engages us to become someone instead of a something. if you stand back and stare, if you whisk away your child when all they're doing is being curious, then we feel like a something. when i say "we" anybody with a difference. it's not just a disability, somebody that has a big nose, anything like that. >> such a powerful message and you write so beautifully in "parents" magazine and jennifer let me bring you in. talk about the psychology of what parents are going through in that moment, why it is that we do whisk away our kids. is it more because we're more embarrassed by thei