if you give them a chance to marry they are much more likely to marry than they are to get a civil union so it clearly has more value. >> what protections do civil unions as well as gay marriage afford members of the lgbt community? >> well, it takes to people who are not related to each other that says they have a legal relationship so that makes it easier for them to live their lives together in the normal kinds of things that happen in the course of a relationship, buying a house, buying cars, having kids. it provides a legal framework for people to live their lives together and it says to the state governments anyway, not to the federal government right now, that state the state governments will recognize those relationships. if i don't have the well then you're civil union partner or your spouse, your same-sex spouse has certain kinds of rights for same-sex couples who cannot get married just don't have. they have to pay a lawyer money to develop these documents and sometimes those documents don't work very well. >> where do you see the movement for gay marriage going? >> there is n

they don't have to get married to have a reasonable life.hat has changed dramatically. >> are you saying that women like marriage more than men do? >> no, i'm saying they like their independence just as much as men do and they now can afford their independence so they don't have to get married to have -- >> interesting point! >> so marriage is, what, disappearing. >> no, it's not disappearing. it just happens later in life -- >> why. >> because there are a lot of good benefits to being married. >> like what? >> unless i'm mistaken, they've companionship -- >> you can have that without marriage! >> they'll instruct you! [everyone talking at once] >> i don't want to turn this into a personal thing. there's also an environment in which you want to raise children. and that's one of things -- [everyone talking at once] >> joke about gay marriage is of course, we're in favor of gay marriage because they deserve everybody right to be as miserable as everybody else some that puts it in perspective. >> cohabitation, that's -- divorce revolution has r

what is clear is that there is far less social pressure for people to get married and stay married and to remarry over the quest of their lives. it's far more acceptable today to stay single later and to stay single after a divorce or to stay single and live alone after your spouse dies than it ever has been. i will give you one anecdote that i think it illustrates us very nicely. 1957 a group of psychologists at the university of michigan did surveys of americans attitudes towards married and unmarried people and they found that 80% of americans thought that people who wanted to be unmarried for either sick, immoral or neurotic. today, almost half of all americans are single, 49% according to the most recent studies. it would be absurd to access such a question so our attitudes about relationships and marriage have changed tremendous lee. and i want to say something about the whole social problem, make it clear why i wrote the book the way that i did. we have a tendency and we have had it for a long time, to like books that announces social change, they observe a social change and exp

we've been married for 8 years. kathy wood said she met her hubby in an online chat room and after that, it got complicated. i thought what a sweet and well mannered man. he was from texas and i thought, not a cowboy fan. well, god had something else in mind and we clicked. he is still a cowboys fan and i'm a redskins fan and we do not watch football for the sake of our marriage. we have been married for four years and he is a saint. as he helps take care of my mom that has alzheimer's. his patience and love is a gift from love. i met my valentine in my dorm lounge on the first day freshman year of college. we began as just friends and have been married for almost 34 years. still best friends. and jennifer finally with proof that love really can come driving up to your front door. i was hitchhiking through quantico 32 years ago when he picked me up and dropped me off at my work. he would always give me a ride to work when he could. we were married in 1979 and have two girls and five of the best grand children one co

now we're married.t's the trick. >> the thing that attracts you to a friend is probably the same types of things that will attract you to someone that you are sexually attracted to. but it's kind of like -- >> let's go to our facebook page for another question. why is my husband afraid to stand up to his parents and he feels the need to sit down and have a talk with them if we make a decision he doesn't think they will agree with? we are adults for crying out loud. p.s., it's our kids, not theirs. how old is this guy? 12? >> some people don't stand up to their parents. some men don't. do you guys stand up to your parents? >> i have cool parents. >> when i think of standing up to your parents, i feel like that's an adversarial relationship. if you have an adversarial relationship with your parents, the need to stand up to them or sit down to have a talk with them to break things to them isn't there. my parents always had the kind of relationship where i was able to be just who i was, good or bad. >> i th

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married in 2008. >> this document means everything to me actually. it's always been a dream of mine to fall in love and get married ever since i was a kid and i have. >> frank and joe were among a small number of gay couples legally married before the current ban took effect. their marriage a preview of what others hope to achieve. >> having this valid marriage license meant the difference to whether or not i got health care. and we found one of those people hoping to get married at the victory celebration after the court ruling. >> we were really overjoyed. the only thing that could have made it better if they said the stay had been lifted. i would have been married by now if it would have been. >> reporter: teresa said she and her partner missed that small window to get married. >> it could be a couple of months, it could be several years if the u.s. supreme court says yeah we'll pick it up and go with it. >> reporter: you might think everyone in this room would want this fight to go to the supreme court to set some sort of federal precedent. but w

it eliminates the right of same-sex couples to marry. this proposition marginalized and stripped over a million gay and lesbian californians of access to what the supreme court of the united states has repeatedly characterized as the most important relation in life. >> mr. olson, you do think there's a difference between taking the right-of-way, and not affording it in the first place? >> yes, we do, judge reinhardt. that is what the united states supreme court said in a case going back to wrightman versus malke, in 1964, where the california citizens acted through this process and took away rights with respect to discrimination in housing, and that is what the supreme court said in roehmer versus colorado, that it does make a difference. now i don't think as an original matter that it would be constitutional if congress had enacted proposition 8 five years ago, before the in re marriage cases but i think it makes it worse and that's what the united states supreme court has said, the taking away of the rights in that context enhances the

married people tend to hunker down. it seems to me like we get a better capacity to understand the social change which so many of us can relate to whether we live alone or just the people and our friendship networks or families, the better capacity to understand if we think about it as the social change and experiment we have so much more to understand before we can see that. >> host: i really appreciate that positive optimistic and shivers updates with the experience of many of my friends and so forth but then i have this other side of me which -- the group by study i do hiv research and study people in poor urban environments that have a long involvement in the criminal justice system or their partners or in the criminal-justice system, and and in that group i see a problem of basically so many social forces pulling them apart and are undermining see will relationships and they are seeking to establish intimacy where they are constantly separated and people going to jail, not coming to jail. >> guest: as you said in t

to marry me marry me out of money my fifteen barcoded marry my one year four but otherwise he would kill you. how can she. get murder you work or why you hold with the kid this practice called bad which is the use of women and girls as compensation for crimes so what you sometimes see happening if has been for instance of rape or a matter. will be a traditional jagger of a council a gathering about us and one of the ways that they can try to result states is rather. punishing the perpetrator of the rape or the murder they'll take a girl from one family the perpetrators family and they'll give that girl usually in marriage to the victim's family. he kind of took on the whole than kill method well you see how difficult it is to obtain justice because you are a woman it hurts you because you know that you can do anything to change the situation if you will and this is because society is in the hands of men and maddow has someone who at this point the concept of justice is still nonexistent in court . it's very hard for women particularly conservative areas of the country to seek help and sa

but married people hunker down. tend be at home more so we get a better capacity to understand the social change which should many of us can relate to, whether we live alone or know people in our networks or families who do. we get better capacity to understand it if we think about it as a social change and an experiment rather than a social problem that is a sign of decline. we have so much more to understand before we can say that. >> host: i really appreciate that positives, optimistic, resonates with the experience of many of my friend and so forth. but then i have this other side of me, which -- and the group that i study -- i do h.i.v. research, and i study people in poor urban environments who have a long environment with the criminal justice system, or their partners have long involvement with the criminal justice system, and in that group i see a problem of basically so many social forces and -- are pulling them apart, are undermining stable relationships, and that they're seeking to establish intimacy in c

you, some people may be married because they're heterosexual and some people may not be married because they wish to marry someone of the same sex. some people were married to someone of the same-sex were to stay married but if they were to get a divorce they couldn't are he marry the same person and some persons that are out of state and if their marriage is legal outside the state, then they are recognized in california. we have an irrational system here, and finally, with respect to the baker case, the doctrinal ground has changed because of the supreme court's sex discrimination cases, and it's changed with respect to the roemer case, and it's changed with respect to lawrence versus texas. what this case comes down to it seems to me that california has built a fence around its gay and lesbian citizens, and it's built a fence around the institution of marriage, which the supreme court says, not based upon sex or procreation or anything else, is the most important relation in life, and the citizens of california within that one fence, because of their sexual orientation, are denied ac

>> i'm trying to get married. i'm trying to do everything that i can to do things the right way. >> right. >> now, i understand there's a situation to where she was a staff member. but what i'm asking you to look at is the fact that in a position that i had as a convict where i could have done things illegally, we didn't do anything but break policies. why would you deprive us of visits when we won't even have contact? >> well, one of the reasons is you know that policy does not allow for anybody that was an ex-employee or ex-contractor to come back into the facility. irregardless of the nature. okay? inclusive of that is the fact that even if you guys got married legally, the department of corrections won't recognize that as something that we approve. so in other words, even if you get married, we cannot allow the visits. >> all right, well, how about this? can -- can i get you to talk to robert and get you and robert to maybe move me to central. i'm working on the last of 18. i'm trying to do good and stay focus

>>(vo) dipika has been married for three weeks. during this time she will have had to have sex with a man she was forced to marry. she is taken into the safety of the high commission, and for the first time in weeks, she is free from here husband, who has been left in the waiting room. >>nothing from here on in will happen without your agreement. you're the one that's in control of your life at this point. no one else. can you help me? she's on the phone to her friend in the uk, but she's started to cry. i think, maybe if i send a woman in there, it will help. she--she's obviously quite scared. i mean, this is a life-changing decision. >>how old is she? >>she's 19. >>is she--she couldn't make up her mind, or she's thinking? >>she doesn't want to be married to this guy. we know that. >>yeah. >>but, she's not sure whether she wants to be rescued or not. she went through with the marriage because she thought that her family was in great danger. so, she waited until they flew back to the uk before she told us she wanted rescued. so, sh

but what people also -- i think lamar and i got married so fast that i think -- we've been married almosthree years, that i think people expected us to have a baby so fast or that's what they think. at first people thought we were pregnant and that's why we did get married. but we are -- i feel like it's in god's hands. if i was pregnant right now and i had to deal with all this move and trade and emotional stress, i feel like everything happens for a reason and it's in god's hands. >> you've said this a few times before. this was around the time kim was getting married to chris. i knew in the beginning we talked about how there was trepidation, you were unsure what was going to happen. now we're talking to you after the fact, after everything is over. what are your reflections, or what do you thing about it? >> i feel like -- i mean everything does happen for a reason, even if we don't know what the reason is for now. and you know what? kim followed her heart, and that's how kim felt at that time. i followed my heart with lamar, and everyone's different. i mean just everyone's different.

in those states where 18,000 couples marry in good faith believing they have the right to marry, you can't take it away. that's a pretty narrow kind of one ride only determination. i do agree with mr. olson, absolutely the language in this is powerful, so eloquent, it really is -- i remember we talked about this when judge walker's decision came down, rachel. it is a letter to justice kennedy at the court saying please, please, please this looks a lot leem r like your roner language from the colorado case. find that same right of dignity and self-determination for gay couples. it's really important to see what the ninth circuit did not do, which is glowingly uphold everything about judge walker's determination and hand what would have been really a smoking bomb to the supreme court and said, here. the most liberal circuit in the kun, the one that you overturn all the time wants you to have this gift. i think they were too kanne to do that, and i think in the long run that was probably a smart move. >> in terms of the next steps here, to be clear this does not mean that people can sta

we are now married. it didn't matter whether it was legal. we developly got married for insurance benefits, for the benefits of marriage. but the stigma of having children and not being married, it's gone. it's over. >> stigma. i think a lot of pem are fearing the sciences approaching them. they're freezing their eggs and they're saying, i need to do this. you need to be my fail-safe if i don't get a guy. >> or they're looking at the people in their mid 30s and see how they're freaking out. >>> next, what jeremy lin's mother might teach you about drawing the line between academics and athletics. >>> plus, why many mobile apps could pose a danger to your kids. to keep big winter jobs on track, at&t provided a mobile solution that lets everyone from field workers to accounting, initiate, bill, and track work in real time. you can't live under a dome in minnesota, that's why there's guys like me. [ male announcer ] it's a network of possibilities -- helping you do what you do... even better. ♪ anything not moving forward... is moving backward. [

marry you can't take it away, that is a pretty narrow one-ride only determination. now, i do agree with mr. olson, absolutely, the language in this is so powerful, so eloquent, it really is and i remember we taubed about this when judge walker's decision came down, rachel, a letter to justice kennedy of the court saying please, please, please, this looks a lot like your roemer language from that coklorado case. please please please take this and find determination for dignity. i think it's important what the 9th circuit did not do, up hold everything about judge walker's determination and hand what would have been really a smoking bomb to the supreme court and said here, the most liberal circuit in the country, the one you overturn all the time wants you to have this gift. i think they were too canny to do that. in long run that was probably a smart move. >> in terms of the next steps, this does not mean people can get married again in california, same sex couples are still not allowed to do it, that is stayed. what we're expecting is a decision by the people who lo

are you married? >> we are. >> jimmy: how listening have you been married?days. okay. wow. that's -- you're honeymooners. >> we're honeymooners. >> jimmy: that's great. you have no idea why we stopped you, correct? >> right. >> jimmy: erin, you love joel, i would imagine, or else you wouldn't have married him. >> that's true. >> jimmy: i would love iffer you to share nine things you love about him. okay? >> got his grips on her pretty good right now. >> jimmy: nine things. all right? go ahead, erin. >> i love his eyes. his heart. his soul. his cammo shirt. >> jimmy: four. >> i love his booty. i love his eyes. >> jimmy: eyes you already said. >> i love his manliness. >> jimmy: okay. >> and his sensitivity. >> jimmy: good. seven. >> and his mustache. >> jimmy: eight. >> and his -- [ laughter ] and i love his love for me. >> jimmy: oh. that's nine. that's very nice. very well done. [ cheers and applause ] very beautiful. how do you feel about that, joel? >> i thought that was pretty nice. >> jimmy: and now, joel, it's your turn to share nine things you love abo

when jenny went to court, she says yes, i was married. she all -- actually was married twice.ollow me? she was married to an enslaved person. she told the judge because in the state of massachusetts you don't recognize enslavepeople as being someone human, then my marriage was nullified. you know what the court said? you're right. they gave her four pounds sams back pay and set her free. right behind her, elizabeth brandwell, who you nonet -- don't know either. she said well, heck, if jenny can do it, i can do it too. and elizabeth said -- said you know what? i'm going to sue for all the plaque folks in the state of massachusetts. this is like in the 1760's. to be free. can you imagine? they said wait a minute, we're going to let you and three others be free but we're not going to free all black folks. but that's an idea of our -- how our people at the early yert point used the ideals of the constitution for their freedom. so let me get -- i'm going to stay on my time. stay on my time. i want you all to know shirley and i will have been married 44 years on monday of next week

the backers of same-sex marriage that you cannot take away same-sex couples right to marry. but they stopped short of opening the doors to marriage immediately carried by 82 to 1 vote, the ninth circuit ruled that banning same-sex marriages unconstitutional and a violation of the equal protection clause. but same- sex marriage remains on hold pending a repeal. >> i think today the historic ruling saying that there is no rational basis upon which a state can discriminate against gay couples in the areas of marriage. this is true whether you are viewed as taking away a right that previously existed, or whether you are viewed as denying the right in which to have been axed. >>reporter: the core cause the decision narrow and it only applies to the decision in california but legal analysts say this has brought implications. >> they do not into the broad question if there is a fundamental right to the marriage, they did not answer that, they say whether it is fundamental or not you cannot take away from one group of people that violate the equal protection clause. they have not an

but if you marry. you know if you do get married. because i think i could do it but i don't. think he would crash. take. was like i can see life here because i've been here already and. i will be here because some friends here. and. you see. this in the same way. we broke up when it was time to come it. by why second wife had never lived in about a get that i doubt she can even live in. their place and i had never lived in japan because she and i were from really different cultures. it was a four year course i left during the year that i was i didn't want to study anymore a three day every day was stressful if you do not just for your appearance. but for me to me. when i was always stressed about school. i missed indonesia. i don't like her for. not becoming the argos i want to know him better. part of living in europe i mean. i want to thank you for like one hundred days only lax don't have to do anything at worki but now it's like i haven't seen us for a one year so. i mean it will be ok if there is something i mean like because you never know what i want is doing to see ot

so what do you do if you run out of close relatives or servants to marry well the rather crafty lord has a fabulous tip just drive over to the nearest town and murder everyone who either has a penis or a semen then just round up all the virgins who are left of course you don't need to take a big truck if you try this and say america a bible based marriage is between one man and gallies kidnapping rape right after brother father mother and slightly sister slaughtered. remember in the bible it's not rape if the man says i do so let's recap the lord's idea of the perfect marriage it is between one man and his sister and her rapist getting condiment gallies kidnapped and raped two more women an adulterer and a pack of rape tours seven hundred wives three hundred and then hell and who knows murder is murder either. but it is not between one man and another man because well that would be. coming up after the break the obama presidency has been marked by personal attacks law is an amount of misinformation or what is behind all this vitriolic rhetoric. if. you. will with. science technology

to be married. i personally interacted with people in oklahoma city that have been living together for years. when i asked them about it and said, why don't you get married, why don't you settle this commitment? his response to me was, i can't afford to do that. i'll lose part of my s.s.i. benefit. we as a government should do everything we can to make sure there are no marriage penalties in any of our social service programs because the best thing that can be done to pull families out of poverty is a stable, strong home. and when there's a stable, strong marriage, that will build up families. and the more we step in as a government and say, i know your family's falling apart but we will subsidize you to a level you have to get married, it's absurd on its face. the cultural thing that pulls us all together, every race, every religion, is marriage being the center of that home. and for every family that i ever talked with, the hope for their children is that they're married and they stay married. it'

to marry you can't take it away. that is a narrow, one-ride only determination. i do agree with mr. olson, absolutely. the language in this is so powerful. so eloquent. it really is, and i remember we talked about this when judge walker's decision came down, rachel, it is a letter to justice kennedy at the court saying, please, please, please, this looks like your romer language from that colorado case, please, please, please, take this and find that same right of dignity and self determination for gay couples. i think it is important to see what the ninth circuit did not do, which is glowingly uphold everything about judge walker's determination and hand what would have been really a smoking bomb to the supreme court and said, here, the most liberal circuit in the country the one you overturn all the time wants you to have this gift. i think they were too kanne to do that, and i think in the long run that was probably a smart move. >> in terms of the next steps here, to be clear this does not mean that people can st