we noticed we have had parents who came in there was greater participation with those parents, parentse is we want to always keep that irnl forefront of our work we doc&y>urgr how important that is for students and parents in our district to have that access. so i don't know if there are any questions this evening. and i'm really happy to be hereto >> commissioner fewer. >> commissioner fewer: thankk3çkwf'd<&fç you. thank you to the pac also for submitting questions to the curriculum committee because the questions that you have as parents are probably the same questions that our parents have. so thank you very much. when you're compiling your data byvúu"x&b schools and your suspension discipline data, and your+]Ñ+wÑy restorative practice research, i think it's important also to ask for that and also by -- and i thinkwueb0ç it would give you a clearer picture sort of what is happening around discipline and sort@ guess defined sort of picture of where we're at with discipline. but thank you for taking# uijpv that on and i invite you to come to the next curriculum meeting because we'll b

then in the scene where he-- his parents leave. in both cases, the parents leave the room. callum is clearly concerned. he goes from where he is to the person filming. he sees trousers. i think he thinks it's his dad. he loo for them, but thers no change in his expression, essentially. whereas in ryan, in 1o seconds, it goes from "oh, no, they're not really leaving me" to "my god, they're gone and he's crying. sooas they come back in, he's comforted. it's all there in those tapes. you casee the essence of autism. the inability to understand means and ends, causality, how to make thing happen and happen again, all that kind of investigatory behaviors, and most importantly, of course, the use of other people make the wholthing work for them, the depth and richness-- it's real painful to watch. nce tism was first described, several theories re put forth toxpin t disorder. r 15, 2o years, tycay, ople blamethpants in oneayr anot focausine ausm, which caused tremendous tredy. ward enough t toe blamild withnot ow why...s and it was an awful circle that was most unfortunate because

and parents are teachers and they teach other parents how to do things for their kids and you have setgh bar and i am grateful that you are coming to the district to do this work with us. and in partnership, thank you for being patient with me over the years. and the struggles and sort of, you know the tensions that we have had to get to the right place to do the right thing, and it is so reflective again, in the restorative justice lead that you have taken, which was wholly unexpected and too my great surprise is so much deeper because of you, because of you and i want to thank you from the bottom of my heart, ruth. >> thank you so very, very much. it is amazing, the work that you do and the people that you have touched. i will not ignore that. and i will not forget it ever. thank you. >> so, ruth, today's celebration, not only for the giants but for ruth, you know, this is a big deal. you know, i am sure pack is sad to lose you, but we are so happy to gain you, so to me, it is a celebration. and when i guess that we came in to this system about the same time eight years ago. and have

for those that say this is all about parenting, i say that the parents matter a whole lot. i think it is easier to give that kind of support, but we know there are lots of single parent families. it should take us, how we think about the interaction with government and families. that the responsibility for kids starts on the first day of vendor -- of kindergarten. that there is a public responsibility, a complicated declined across. -- line to cross. the interventions are crossing that line, finding ways to work directly with parents and support them. that is something that a lot of us are scared of. it also just lets us off the hook, it lets us say that if the parents are not doing the job, there is nothing we can do. >> to those that say children succeed, hard work and to the conditions be damned, you have to work hard. there are all kinds of policy makers, influence jurors, thought leaders, i pulled myself up by my bootstraps, it is ultimately about hard work. >> i think it is about hard work. in the south side of chicago, a lot of disadvantages for kids, a lot of them w

with it, but nothing when you have to take care of a parent? >> they started the "caregivers for aging parents" ministry at st. james. the ministry provides practical resources for parental caregivers and pairs those who have gone through it with those who are just beginning. >> know where your parents' finances are kept, what that situation is, do you have a living will, do you have a healthcare proxy, some of that information you can get at any local council on aging, it's laying over the spiritual component that's so important in the context of a church community. >> in the end, gross says the most important lesson she learned was not letting the logistics completely overwhelm what was truly important. >> the decisions that seem like they matter so much when you're making them by and large don't, but the quality of the time does. and you know, since time is finite i would worry less about fixing stuff that ultimately can't be fixed and worry more about gathering memories and feeling good about the experience. >> for bryant, caring for an agi

they should talk to a parent and let them know what is going on so the parent can intervene.s important that students understand that it's not tatt lichk or snitching. we can't help them if we don't understand. >> cheryl: do you have success stories? >> there are fabulous things going on in alameda county right now. unified started talking off the year and showed the movie of bully to students and right now students are developing posters that they are using all over the district. they are developing their own anti-bully messages and using student language to talk about it. >> cheryl: is the idea to punish the perpetrator, the bully? how do you deal with the bully? >> the idea to prevent bullying as much as you can. we give students and people tools to help with the issue. i think when we find out that a student has been bullied it's important to work with the student that has been victimized but to work with them separately. the balance of power i talked about earlier can be played out and brings them together. i think working with them separately and getting to the root of

children do not pass before their parents. we began to see that the school, the high school in los gatos, led by a very strong, great principled people, brought in an organization to help and after all i should preface in 2009 was a brutal year for los gatos high school, they lost two other students shortly before jill died. the school and principal brought in a counseling group called cassie, counseling and support services for youth, embedded counseling. and their job was to change the culture, very much what we've heard today, change the culture to get rid of the stigma of mental health and understanding that a lot of these kids feel anxiety and stress, they need someone to talk to. they just don't have the perspective that an adult has. >> one of the things that struck me was the boys were interviewed, they knew they were in trouble, but i didn't hear them say i'm sorry, i shouldn't have sent the picture on. >> the three boys were arrested and they complied with a vuft stis program and part of that program was to write a l

and now we have one of our own parents who is the coordinator.we have been kind of floating around here and there and now we are at cesar chavez,naj we're grateful that we have a room so that we can really get our program running full strength. and it's good to have a location so families can have somewhere to go when they need to. there's no other program in c<6Ñczshp &c"p% school district that supports the american indian students, and so this program is very vital for our -- the success3"o4(o of our youth, to complete high school, and go on to higher education. and that's like gloria mentioned one of our goals for our program is to -- is that we want our graduation numbers to go up. we have a high risk ofobú;c? dropout and we're trying to turn that around. and we're very grateful and honored to be here. thank youfá,?c> [applause.] >> i know we don't have g4sj y-Ñz÷k+yd/x right now but i'm going to acknowledge the pac members who have been supporting, with the -- certificate later on but michelle an tone, georgia pratt williams, arin hall

i get better at parenting. how i was parented certainly affected me greatly. and my constant drive to survive and get better. drove me. to eventually become a better actor and parent. tavis: you have been a survivor for years now. i want to talk more to run at. d.c. how fast the time goes? it is over for that first night -- the see how fast that time goes back we will talk about more about the character, mary todd lincoln. there's all kinds of buzz on this project. i am looking forward to tomorrow night. we will be joined for part two of this conversation. until then, thank you for being here. see you in a few hours. thanks for watching. keep the faith. ne anotheronve subcommittee to investigate me. >> i believe i am smiling, mrs. lincoln. >> all is in order, ma'am. >> you hav e always taken such online with me, even prosecutorial interest in my household accounts. >> your household accounts have always been some interesting. >> thank you. it is true. the miracles i have wrought with bills and cultery. but i had to. >> for more information on today's show, vis

substitute parents expenses associated with caring for a child. from the very beginning that she was not our daughter some time after he started living with us her mother began to visit all the time that has been living here she's been aware of the fact that not one biological parent stock school at different ages she has reacted to a different life course speaking make us. better and her husband became yasmin's foster parents when she was just eighteen months old now the girl is finishing school. not my bit and i keep in touch with my biological mother i have her contact details but i got used to this family and it had become closer and dearer to me than my biological family that has such. as another prominent social activist fighting the finnish child protection system my son was bullied at school. saw this it was something although i tried to tell my son this bill it also made an announcement. it was about four months from this announcement that the social workers came to my home door and took my did run away it was not that this isn't of cours

some point the blame at parents, they call it neglect. in a city where violent crime and unemployment are big problems, many believe that education is the ski to solving those -- the key to solving the issues but truancy is standing in the way. >> my job is to educate them. i can't educate them or meet the aggressive goals that we set around student achievement if the children are not there. >> reporter: traditionally, our school system is the ---- . >> traditionally our school system is the safety net. >> reporter: he testified in front of a council committed to getting students to class. some say parents have to be held accountable. >> you literally are risking their educational life. >> this is neglect. it's action will -- educational neglect. i think we have to inspire a few parents to get serious about it and make examples. >> there is a law on the books holding parents responsible for truancy. but this council member said it's rarely enforced. >> the parents start to understand the personal consequences and i would go the route of c

parents can put money on the account. the district said it's about convenience. >> we were able to look at this new technology that allows a few scans to bring up a child's account versus a card or pin number. cards can get lost. pin numbers can get forgotten. >> rote now it's available in handful of schools and parents are concerned about privacy. right now less than 15% of parents opt out of the plan. >>> the howard county board of education is apologizing for having a seg gated school system 50 years ago. it was issued in a proclamation in a meeting last night. it said the school had failed to desegregate for nearly a decade after the case had ended separate but equal segregation if schools. >>> it seems like kind of a strange time for free toe lay to come out with a new version of cracker jacks, baked with caffeine. they're calling it cracker jacked. the high energy popcorn will only be marketed to adults. we want to know what you this. head to our website, abc2news.com/facebook and soundoff. is frito-lay taking the c

children, parent's support, groups, peer support groups, curriculum based parent education classes, parent leadership, and community building, promoting activities that promote school readiness so children are ready for kindergarten and school success so children are graduating from high school. we provide family additional support in navigating the resources and coordinating support in times of need. most importantly family resource centers provide a warm, safe, fun place for families to go where they get respect. they're listened to and they are contributing members of the family resource center, so i am grateful for the opportunity to be part of this violence prevention strategy and i am thrilled that we're starting young, so thank you all, and please support us in the family resource center. thank you. [applause] >> thank you laurel and our next speaker is the executive director of apa, the actual contracted agency to deliver the services here in sunny dale. please welcome our next guest. >> hello everyone. thank you deanna and laurel and certainly mayor lee. i have a lot of peo

regretablely, i have had too many conversations with parents, including some of the parents that were featured in the movie --. >> (inaudible) collaborative. it's like an underground railroad because nobody, no one has suffered like we have. the white house summit, both of them, i knew what was going to be said because we all, we are each other's advocates. we are brothers and sisters in grief. we know what it feels like to have our children destroyed over things that we love and cherish about them. >> right. you referenced again what i referred to often as the appalling silence of good people that, as you recall, were dr. king's words from the birmingham jail. i've seen that all the time, people who are i think in their core good people who don't know what to do who tend to send the paradigm that boys will be boys and girls will be girls and we're trying to shift that paradigm. and that's why in okahenapen we have an accountability document that calls for --. >> (inaudible) with the idea, like i said, there is not a state going that we don't have a parent that has a dead child. we ar

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is it parents or a matter arming parents with the education?is it i don't know building the voice of kids in to the conversation? >> how do we -- how do we build champion. >> yeah. , you know, i think all have an obligation. i coached my kids in sport from the time they were 7 years old. heading in to the last year of coaching my girls basketball team, and if there is one group of poem i'll crawl for glass for it will be them. that responsibility is one that comes from being a parent, it certainly comes from a person who believes in the lessons the life lessons that youth sports teach. but look, you know, when i don't think that it's a question of whether kids have an advocacy group for them. i think the benefit that kids all over the country have is that hopefully the people sitting around the table, the people watching at home, fellow coaches like myself, parents who believe in youth sports, all of those people are people who believe in the beauty and the benefits of sports. if you think of the things we have accomplished in the sports take f

during the time my parents were gone, working here in the u.s. i will look at the mountain something i parents were over there on the other side of the mountains. that was what it meant to me. >> where did you grow up? originally where were u born. >> in mexico. southern mexico in the little city that nobody has heard of. why mention ak acapulco everybody knows that. it was three hours away from there. >> when did your parents come to the united states? how would were you? >> my father came here in 1977 when i was two years old. and he sent for my mother a few years later. my mother came here in 1980 when was four and a half. >> when did you come to the united states? >> i came to the united states in 1985. >> how would were you? >> in may of 1985, i was nine and a half going on fen. >> what can you tell us about coming to the united states. what was your trek? >> well, i had been separated from my father for eight years. so when he returned to mexico in '85, my siblings and i convinced us to bring us back here. he wasn't going come back to mexic

our parents guide is free and can be distributed at schools or parent nights or whatever, so we're happy to make them available to you at connect safety .org so a little bit more of the big picture. this is amazing panel of people who have resources and campaigns that can support and reinforce your fine work. so i am glad you stayedand we learned about bullying and preventions and solutions and just to reinforce getting the accurate picture bullying is a serious problem but it's not an epidemic. it's not on the rise. daift finkelhorn and director of the research center university of new hampshire and reviewed studies and bullying among youth is actually down in recent years. his colleague have actually stopped using the term of "bullying" and refer to peer aggression and i can go into definitions but i won't bore you. a subset of bullying is also not on the rise and based on researchers and their samples and other scholar's work and 20% of teens have ever experienced cyber bullying and a scholar from norway published lower numbers but why be such a stickler about accurate data? because t

that helps support parent resiliency, social connections, knowledge of parenting and child development, concrete support in times of need, and supporting their social emotional growth of their children. we believe that violence prevention starts very early when children are born and families are young and is accomplished by having these protective factors. the family resource center is one of 25 centers located in the city supported by the human services agency and first five. each resource center provides eight essential services so workshops and classes for parents and their children, parent's support, groups, peer support groups, curriculum based parent education classes, parent leadership, and community building, promoting activities that promote school readiness so children are ready for kindergarten and school success so children are graduating from high school. we provide family additional support in navigating the resources and coordinating support in times of need. most importantly family resource centers provide a warm, safe, fun place for families to go where they get respec

it was not visible to his parents.cretive. >> reporter: some people will say why didn't they break into his room? >> because at the time he was growing up, there was no evidence that there was any reason to break into his room. i'll tell you one thing for sure, i know them well enough, so that i can tell you, 100%, if they had had the slightest idea that such a thing could ever possibly happen, they would have tried to stop it and prevent it. >> reporter: andrew wants to be clear he is not an apologist for what happened at columbine, neither are the kleibolds. but -- they still love him? >> very much. she said while i recognize that it would have been better for the world if dylan had never been born, i believe it would not have been better for me. >> reporter: as andrew solomon has learned firsthand, the love of parents can at times heal and redeem. >> when i was growing up my mother always said to me, there is no other love like the love you have for your children. if you didn't have children, you will never know wha

i want to persuade the young woman's parents to give the chance to make her own decision. points out that abduction is a criminal offense but kidnappers given sri years in prison by contrast people who still. put behind bars for eleven years. and members of the golem and other even came out and said nice you can need to. get a live in years for cattle rustling is a complete and utter fars own was less and she. mind you they voted in favor of legislation against stealing sheep in the first reading. campaign is from opening line take to the streets to tell young women what they should do with abducted told not to be afraid of and to sing and to immediately go to the police. do you know want to do if you're abducted do other girls know you. i don't think they do because they stay on in many cases. do you know what is the right thing to do you were abducted. we want to scream and shout let me go. we've heard a lot of different stories some of the more astounding simply because they are routine somebody comes in kidnaps them that's the end of it you begin wondering whether such

dwarfs are born to parents of average height, how does a parent dial child who is so different and hows the child find meaning in a peer group? >> rose: what percentage do find that kind of understanding? >> you know, it's hard for me to give you an exact number. in my research, actually, most do. >> rose: most of them. >> yes. of course, people who have not found any meaning or are mill are less likely to make themselves available for an interview. but i found it was extraordinary how often parents who really struggled at the beginning ended up loving their children for who they were, as parents mostly have done since the dawn of time. >> chris is in 11th grade, and pretty much on his own in high school mean has a mentor that helps him. >> no biting, chris. >> chrissy, go to mom. >> let him walk off, if you don't mind. >> chris probably had one of the worst diagnoses ever, self-injurious, swollen intestinees, poisons in hisesome, neurological damage, mental retardation, severe autism, almost kroans disease. chris did not communicate. he didn't sit down, he didn't put on clothes. he wo

but when the tv is off, their parents. -- they are parents.e day, the lessons i draw from having those conversations are that while they might be supermen on the field, they are the same guys who hug their kids like i do every night. >> i would like to bring dave into the conversation. >> i feel like i should say to the other working sportswriters in the room that i am [indiscernible] second, [laughter] >> dave, tell us who you are with. >> i am a sports writer f. "the nation" magazine. i host a radio show. given everything we have seen over the last several months in the nfl season, given the continued push by the nfl, given the regimentation of thursday night games which a lot of players do not like because they feel like there's not enough rest and recuperation playing every thursday night, and given the replacement referees that have created an unsafe working environment for n.f.l. players, do you feel like you have a working partner in roger could tell richard -- roger goodell in creating a safer game? >> i do. when it is time for the tou

look, these bullies have parents and where are the parents?y, it is your job to know that your child is a bully. it's your job to know that. it's your job to intervene at that level as a parent. it is your job to talk to the school. >> i have talked to a lot of the schools who have tried to intervene with the parents of bullies and the parents don't recognize it as a problem. >> that's what i'm saying. they don't see it because a lot of times it's modeled in the home. there's aggressive behavior in the home either verbally or physically and that becomes the norm. these kids are not born this way, anderson, they learn this. it is a social skill deficit that they learn, and their parents need to know that and intervene. >> the place where we stop it is the public forum of the school. because we can't control these homes. but we can control what happens to kids at school. and we can have -- we can push for more empathy and more understanding. that's where we have a chance to make an impact. >> what bothers me is i don't think you can put a fence