deaf children, dwarfs, autistic, schizophrenibes, children with down syndromees, prodigies.ldren conceived in rape. children who commit serious crimes, and transgender children. they all share what? >> there are many identities passed down from generation to generation. these are all characteristics which, by and large, people don't share with their parents independent same way that someone who is gay, for example, or most deaf children are born to hearing parents or more dwarfs are born to parents of average height, how does a parent dial child who is so different and how does the child find meaning in a peer group? >> rose: what percentage do find that kind of understanding? >> you know, it's hard for me to give you an exact number. in my research, actually, most do. >> rose: most of them. >> yes. of course, people who have not found any meaning or are mill are less likely to make themselves available for an interview. but i found it was extraordinary how often parents who really struggled at the beginning ended up loving their children for who they were, as parents mostly