this is a restoration can begin a because when you're still in the state of fixing the unfixable, everythingt is engaged." >> it is so abusive to try to do that, too. everyone is on their heroes journey, but people don't need to be saved a rescue, especially by a tired grandmother trying to nag them and to be saving a different way. -- into behaving a different way. when someone has screwed up or come up empty, they are teachable. that is when i am. tavis: do we have to hit bottom to have this reality check? >> i don't think so. especially as you get older, you start to catch yourself tipping off into this kind of blame. usually, the default place i go to is, who to blame, how can i change them? getting older for me is that you align yourself, like turning in a radio station a little bit better because you know it is there. it is not off. when i was number, i had to hit -- the willingness came from the pain. when i had enough pain, i would say to god, bitterly, what? then i would be teachable. tavis: what do you imagine god must think about it the only way for us to learn -- you said you don

we seek answers and solutions on how to fix something that might be inherently unfixable.ut putting armed guards in schools, arming teachers, banning guns that were involved in the shooting. we have to take into account a larger content. mass shootings down, victims are down, statistics across the board over wide range of times suggests this is a rare and horrible incident. >> the nra -- the issue, nra blamed everybody but guns, blamed the media, video games, which by the way are played everywhere in the entire world. and media everywhere in the entire world. nothing to do with guns. guns can't possibly be part of the problem according to the nra. >> the nra, so dedicated to protect the second amendment, willing to sell out the first and many other constitutional amendments we hold deer. >> you talk about this rare, you have newtown across the country when you look at the collective desk. the point where you talk about whether it's arming teachers or gun control or mental illness, you are trying to confront as many pieces of the puz elt as possible. no one solution. one-di