and blaming the parents. at the same time, parents can play a critical role, at the very least, in observing, being aware of what their children are going through and being willing to intervene and get some help for them. we need to-and i think some of the work that you're doing is really helpful in diminishing the stigma and the shame attached to seeking help because so many young people really can benefit from help. the question of whether to use medication or not is very complicated-so many factors-and i think has to be addressed on an individual basis. but parents should not be afraid of it. tami, it calls to question not only what the parents can do but what whole entire communities can do. what is really the concept of a prevention prepared community? i think a prevention prepared community is willing to talk about some of these tough issues, willing to work together to have collations, to have groups that come together to try to support adolescents, children, their families. there is a number of those

whether from parents of daniel webster that want to send this children to multilanguage school or parents wondering the future of their student, middle school or high school or combination. the goal is simple, to provide parents from daniel webster and also acknowledging that isa was extended an invitation to come. but i understand that the district has decided to speak on behalf of isa. and to use this as an opportunity to present their concerns and suggestions on how the city and district can address challenges that population increase will bring. i am looking forward to hearing from mr. lee from the school district that will walk us through the process that the school district has undertaken thus far and a timeline that they anticipate for future decisions related to this matter. i think it's essential to build as much collaboration between parents, schools and districts, we want the same thing. we want our kids to have a safe and enriching school experience. madam chair, as a point of clarification. i would like to start with the school district. i understand there is some board rule

two parents, one was a parent liaison and five fantastic students. we learned so much about isa. i will talk about the high school portion on the next page but focus on the middle school section. one thing we learned there is no spanish emersion at isa. and the middle school funding is under funding. the school gets their funding as 6-12. but because they are high school, they have a-g proportions so it supports the high school to meet those requirements. which is fair. but yet it deems the middle school under funded. moving on to the next slide. looking at high schools in our area. i will mention downtown high just for completeness. it was also the former home to isa. but it's a continuation school that nobody can request. so moving on to isa, it is the least requested high school in the district. it is a great program for at-risk kids. principal koe mentioned it has one of the highest graduation rates in the district. and we took a tour with four of the high schoolers, and i was so impressed by these kids. and the classes that they took us to, ethnic studies, english, and histo

her parents had an idea to enroll her in bok. had the confidence he needed and she loves coming to school on boks days and she is one of the most confident kids in her class and one of these kids who wouldn't have participated in intramural sports but boks let her be a big athlete. and young boy in the boston area who could not run a full lap around the gym. when he started the bok program in not only keeps up with the kids but surpasses most of the man has lost 40 pounds over a year-and-a-half. there are many more stories like that and i will tell you those are the goosebumps stories i get these e-mail from parents and teachers on a daily basis and this is really worth it. we are making a difference. but we know we can't do it alone. more and more collaboration and awareness and support are what we need to reverse the trend. we need more people to get on board and join the cause, people like eli and peyton manning whose ongoing commitment to boks and making a difference in the lives of kids has helped us grow the awareness of th

>> how do we communicate with parents? >> uh-huh. >> that's a big question. >> yeah, it's a good one to end on. >> in particular on this -- can i address it by talking about some communications around this issue? or do you want more global response. >> sure. >> on this issue, we have been in conversation and communication with members of the webster elementary school community, back from the fall of 2011. as well as isa community. and to a lesser extent the bryant elementary school community. we have had our, there has been a change in the administration of the central office administrator that supervises daniel webster. that's supervised by mr. stevens, and both have been in dialogue consistently with the webster community and its leadership. i have participated in some conversations over the past i don't know six or eight months with the webster community. myself though not as consistently as the school supervisor. we have had through our other colleague, dr. schuldt that supervises isa and to a lesser and important exte

wendy, why would a parent -- >> oh -- >> yeah. i'm not parent. but my parents did say, all right, you're going to go out and drink, you want to try it, whatever, as i became nearing the drinking age. have beer with us. right? >> right. alcohol -- >> alcohol is legal. marijuana is not legal in every place. >> there are a lot of pieces to this. first of all, there is the question of illegality. we don't have it straight in this country yet. is it medical marijuana or is a pot shop on the corner? there is one next door to cnn here in los angeles. it's called hope. they are selling hope which cracks me up. there is one with on every other block here. how in california do you tell the parent of a teenager not to do that when they are like a mcdonald's on every other block. secondly the parents weren't a unified front. they clearly had different parenting ideas and the dad just called the cops on the mom. >> why call the cops on mom? come on, man. really? >> when you have run out of re sour -- resources you reach out to the system. i completely underst

children do not pass before their parents. we began to see that the school, the high school in los gatos, led by a very strong, great principled people, brought in an organization to help and after all i should preface in 2009 was a brutal year for los gatos high school, they lost two other students shortly before jill died. the school and principal brought in a counseling group called cassie, counseling and support services for youth, embedded counseling. and their job was to change the culture, very much what we've heard today, change the culture to get rid of the stigma of mental health and understanding that a lot of these kids feel anxiety and stress, they need someone to talk to. they just don't have the perspective that an adult has. >> one of the things that struck me was the boys were interviewed, they knew they were in trouble, but i didn't hear them say i'm sorry, i shouldn't have sent the picture on. >> the three boys were arrested and they complied with a vuft stis program and part of that program was to write a l

i am a parent. i view this education reform debate and these policies from the viewpoint of having two little girls and knowing what i want for them and what i want for them is no different from any other mom i have met across the country. we want our kids to have the best possible education. they have to have a great teacher in their classroom every single day and options for high quality schools and we have to know that our taxpayer dollars are going to things that will have the most benefit for kids. tavis: i want to talk about how equal, high- an quality education for every child. i wantteacher to do that to looe way you'd be constructed -- there is somewhere in the conversation, you will break that down in the book and will come to that in a second. the title is "radical: fighting to put students first." when this book came across my desk i thought it was a fascinating title. why is it we have to fight to put students first? i am not being naive in asking this question but you think in the educ

i could be the parent. can you imagine every conversation i had with him before that he would laugh i would go is he off his ?edz if he cried i would go is he off the meds? all the sudden i can be the parent again. i had to become the parent instead of the -- i had to learn to teamwork. he got him -- it's not rocket science. what do people with mental illness want? a purpose in life, they want someone to love, and they want to be somewhere where it's safe. the worker said, look, we're going get you in to housing. because living with your father apparently at your age isn't really smart thing. so the guy at the housing with two people with schizophrenia and said, why don't you take your meds? do you know my son had seven stris only two bothered to learn the name or symptoms. they figure the med, stick a bill and let the social worker who is cheaper dot work. treating mind requires treating the heart. i didn't like the weight gain. let's try this. he became compliant. what do you want to do with your life? i

they bring out the worst in each parent. >> that's true. >> 'cause each parent sits there and says, "well, if you did this differently he wouldn't act out." and the other parent says, "no, no. if you did this differently, he'd be okay." and they don't look at the obvious problem-- the kid. the parents that i work with find the total transformation program to be a very exciting experience for them because they stop asking themselves, "what am i doing wrong?" the total transformation program takes that pressure off. it's a very interesting process when parents stop saying "is this my fault?" or "whose fault is this behavior?" and start saying, "this is my kid's problem. what can i do about it to help him change?" and put the responsibility back on that child. >> i can honestly say that if we had not found james lehman it's quite possible that my husband and i would be divorced or separated right now. it had gotten to the point where it was almost impossible for me, and i feel like going to see james saved my family >> now, what about a.d.d. or a.d.h.d., the hyperactivity disorders, thin

it is very important that parents-to get back to your initial question that parents are supportive of the efforts on the part of the school system or the college. unfortunately, we run into many parents who are just so focused on wanting-being concerned about their child's record and something being on their record that they immediately take this adversarial stance and they want to just sweep it under the rug and not be supportive of getting that help. that's sad. and i think it's really important that we train and also educate our faculty members, our administrators at different schools, so that every school becomes almost a recovery school and stigma is reduced about the-for young people. i think this is particularly important for different cultures and genders because there's definitely differential stigma associated. beyond the colleges and the staff within the colleges, so let's talk a little bit about primary health care and its role. should physicians be concerned when they're treating a young person or a young adult with these issues? i think that's an important piece to recov

they're all wonderful parents.take parenting very seriously, probably because they know that they are under greater scrutiny. but i'm wondering, you know, there's a psychological impact to being raised by a single parent. there's a psychological impact, as i can attest to, being raised by divorced parents. is there a psychological impact being raised by gay parents? >> well, i think that the studies seem to indicate, at least, that if there is a psychological impact, it's not really that huge. what studies are showing from numerous studies, we're talking about dozens of studies that have looked at the overall mental health of kids who are raised by gay or lesbian parents. and what we see over and over again is that these kids seem to do as well as all other kids who are raised in heterosexual households. so if there is a difference, we have yet to discover what that difference is and what impact it has that might be negative. there is no indication as of yet that there's any negative impact on these kids. >> doctor

our parents guide is free and can be distributed at schools or parent nights or whatever, so we're happy to make them available to you at connect safety .org so a little bit more of the big picture. this is amazing panel of people who have resources and campaigns that can support and reinforce your fine work. so i am glad you stayedand we learned about bullying and preventions and solutions and just to reinforce getting the accurate picture bullying is a serious problem but it's not an epidemic. it's not on the rise. daift finkelhorn and director of the research center university of new hampshire and reviewed studies and bullying among youth is actually down in recent years. his colleague have actually stopped using the term of "bullying" and refer to peer aggression and i can go into definitions but i won't bore you. a subset of bullying is also not on the rise and based on researchers and their samples and other scholar's work and 20% of teens have ever experienced cyber bullying and a scholar from norway published lower numbers but why be such a stickler about accurate data? because t

as for gay parenting, i mean, there's no question there are gay parents and so forth.y are able to love children. but no amount of love can turn a mother into a father or father into a mother. in any case, the issue of parenting is not identical with the issue of marriage. it's not necessary to change the definition of marriage in order to deal with the issue of parents. >> interesting point. thanks very much to all three of you. a lot to be continued on this. hope you all three will come back. >>> now let's check in with anderson with a look at what's coming up on "ac 360." >>> breaking news on the program tonight in the murder of the chief of colorado's prisons. a possible break in the case. we'll tell you what's happening. >>> also families who lost kids in newtown are adding their voices to the gun control debate. the parents of 7-year-old grace mcdonald murdered in sandy hook tell me if members of congress felt their pain for just one day they would be moved to make a change. >>> they are calling it an unprecedented wildlife crisis in california. sea lions by the

the parents of tom hurwitz, his parents were among that group. leo was a documentarian and his mother was a documentarian -- was in the dance troupe. see if i can see. as a young man, tom looked at his parents''s wild ride through the profession within the. with his liquid brown eyes and full lips and wiry brown hair brushed into submission and parted on the side, he was a dreamy and stubborn youngster who like his father couldn't bear to concede a point. in some ways he was a typical child. he had a leather jacket with fringe and daniel boone had with the tail around the back. and the biggest collection of pull a gun is of every source. when i spoke to my analyst about it he said he won't would have more of the money grows up. the death of the rosenbergss pervaded his childhood. he talked about with his father. could they get you and mom? no, we are artists. leo's response is not particularly on point but, was comforted by this response. but tom's parents did not keep him from participating in political causes. he and his classmates spent many s

what are the parents for? >> don't the parents go to the parties when the kids are that young? the children? >> how would i know? >> you are asking about it. >> i am asking because i don't know and i never will know. thank you so much for reminding me of that every day. >> he will die alone. >> how does a three-year-old get a shellfish allergy? >> is this a joke? >> how does a three-year-old get a shellfish allergy? >> because i asked. >> remi you think the shirt is nuts. you would be the first person to help a parent sue if somebody gave little emma a peanut, wouldn't you? >> andy, how many times do i have to tell you i don't sue people for a living. my firm defends people, most often they are wrongfully accused of criminal charges. i think you put these t-shirts on little kids and the only thing you are going to do is make more therapists and psychiatrists rich. they will be traumatized living with the brand. it is like a scarlet letter for a three-year-old. >> let me break this down in a term you can understand. if the kid had a huge allergy and it affected everybody -- actu

we are in item e, the parent advisory council report. i believe we have representatives from the pack in the audience. please approach the table. >> good evening commissioners and superintendents. i am ammy, a member of the the pack and a parent at [inaudible] elementary school. >> hello, my name is vanessa banks, my daughter attends the bay view [inaudible] and i'm glad to be here. how ya'll doing? >> vanessa and i have a brief report to share with you all tonight. as you know the role of the pack is to represent parent voices and perspective to inform board of education policy discussion. tonight we'd like to report on the pack's upcoming community briefing on the redesign of special education services. next week we will be hosting a community brief inging on the redesign of these services. this briefing will help us gain a better understanding of the bigger picture and perhaps some of the challenges related to implementing practices across the district. as the para dime increases, parents and community partners alike have many questio

how long have your parents owned the billion? >>> they owned it for a little bit over 30 years. >> okay. and they currently live there, right? >>> yes, my parents live in one of them. >> dwellings? >>> yes. >> are they rented out? >>> yes. and that's their only source of income. >> and they have rented it out for 30 plus years, so, it's probably paid for, right? >>> yes. there are some tenants in there that have been there longer than my parents. >> and regards to the penalty that was imposed, have you guys paid that penalty -- >>> we never got to that point because in order for us to pay the penalty, they told us that the permit would have to be approved first. >> so, over the course of 30 years -- well, first of all, just backing up, the window contractor they hired, do you know if that person was licensed? >>> i'm not sure because my parents were the ones that contacted him. and like i said, they found him from a chinese newspaper. >> right. can you find out? because i'm assuming if this person is a person that caused the prob

as for gay parenting, there's no question there are gay parents and so forth. they're able to love children. but no amount of love can turn a mother into a father or a father into a mother. and, in any case, the issue of parenting is not identical with the issue of marriage. it's not necessary to change the issue of marriage in order to deal with the issue of parent. >> all right, well, thanks very much to all three of you. a lot to be continued on this. i hope you all will come back. the war on smoking. mayor bloomberg and passing acts in the best ad you'll ever see. the patient, presented with a hairline fracture to the mandible and contusions to the metacarpus. what do you see? um, i see a duck. be more specific. i see the aflac duck. i see the aflac duck out of work and not making any money. i see him moving in with his parents and selling bootleg dvds out of the back of a van. dude, that's your life. remember, aflac will give him cash to help cover his rent, car payments and keep everything as normal as possible. i see lunch. [ monitor beeping ] let's move

not only educating the students and parents, but all of our residents in the richmond district. and about two years ago i stood with our dpw director mohammed nuru and neighbors and parents as we announced in a major greater green project in the city that was hopefully a model for other neighborhoods as well as argon parents and community transformed ugly concrete into something really beautiful and a great teaching tool as well. there is an edible garden there now, a great mural, and they haven't stopped there. they've continued to green their school and the neighborhood is involved people in this process. most specifically the greater green program enabled parents, teachers and students to transform their neighborhood into a more environmentally conscious community and school. the progress also continues with a community challenge grant that they were awarded and working with the department of public works to install a lively garden on cabrillo street filled with native plants for everyone to enjoy. they have an edible school yard. they are working -- i was playing on their re

his parents say he never complains. he never asks about the scars on his face. >> i hope he's not going to ask even when he grows up. that's going to really bother me a lot. if he's going to come to e me and say, like, why my face is that? i don't know what i'm going to answer. >> this one, i can see there's one, two, three. >> reporter: his parents say all of this feels like a dream. have you had a hard time making friends at all? >> no. when a new kid, the next day we're just friends. >> reporter: is that right? >> yeah. >> reporter: is anybody mean to you? >> no. >> reporter: he's been at the same school with the same kids since 1 st grade. come june he'll say good-bye to this familiar place. up next is middle school. >> do you worry about when he goes to a new school now that he's going to get teased? >> yes. >> how does a father prepare his son for that? >> we have to be strong. we have to make him strong, too. >> reporter: once victims, now a family full of strength. today the family appears safe, even happy. yuse

my name is angela taylor and i'm a parent of town school. i have been a parent now for two years. when looking at schools in san francisco and i walked into town i was immediately taken by the sense of community within the school, respect. i was -- my son and i were greeted by the head master, and as we stood in the lobby waiting for the tour to begin, i noticed the boys coming into the school shaking the hand of the head master and this really caught my attention, because you don't feel that so much these days in other schools and especially with children. not only does children -- town have a commitment to education and curriculum, but it has a commitment to diversity and community. it is fostered within town and it's part of the curriculum and it's something that i really appreciated about the school. there are various celebrations throughout the year, celebrating diversity. the students are involved in community activities and there is a true sense of appreciation for the community at-large. and that, to me as a parent, is extremely important. my son loves the school and he ha

>> it is the parents again. it is the parents exploiting their children for their own gain.h little whatever his name is, they put that there on the internet, youtube, whatever it is. they are the ones showing all of their friends. it is parental exploitation as lori rightly says. >> a, you should be outraged tom, shillou. >> is it bad for a 25-year-old to do it? of course it is. it is a bunch of nonsense. >> so it is not about the age. it is about the content. >> yes. >> why throw so much of your money into kids when you can use them to make money? i am against child labor laws and i think the only thing that is like a wavy line is they are in front of a camera. >> forget the pyramid, have a pair of kids. a pair of kids scheme and not a pyramid scheme. i tried that joke already once and it didn't work. >> and keep them in cages like parrakeets. they don't need to go willy-nilly all over the house. put paper on the bottom and let poopy do his thing. >>> coming up, where should you invest your money? lori roth man discuss discusses. i get stock tips from the squirrels in my b

regretablely, i have had too many conversations with parents, including some of the parents that were featured in the movie --. >> (inaudible) collaborative. it's like an underground railroad because nobody, no one has suffered like we have. the white house summit, both of them, i knew what was going to be said because we all, we are each other's advocates. we are brothers and sisters in grief. we know what it feels like to have our children destroyed over things that we love and cherish about them. >> right. you referenced again what i referred to often as the appalling silence of good people that, as you recall, were dr. king's words from the birmingham jail. i've seen that all the time, people who are i think in their core good people who don't know what to do who tend to send the paradigm that boys will be boys and girls will be girls and we're trying to shift that paradigm. and that's why in okahenapen we have an accountability document that calls for --. >> (inaudible) with the idea, like i said, there is not a state going that we don't have a parent that has a dead child. we ar

it is parents not stepping up.hey are not teaching their kids and having the tough, awkward conversations. if an adult does make you feel uncomfortable in someway to tell a parent or a caregiver that you trust. so the schools -- >> it is going to drive hugging underground. there will be a black market of hugging. >> the worst part, the serious worst part is parents are being underminded of the authority figure in their children's lives. that is a skier reproposition. that is the road -- that is a scary proposition. that is the road to author tear januaryism. >> from a hug ban, he has the gal to not tell all. he says he can't reveal every detail about the fun with kim kim jong-un. in an interview he described the little leader as, quote, not one of the saddam hussein characters who wants to take over the world. and then he gave an account of kim's love of disco music. and then other stuff "the worm" wouldn't confirm. he said, i won't tell you if the toilets were made of gold as i promised kim i wouldn't talk about t

you know, i tell you, as a parent, i think a lot of parents, grandparent out there watching what you went through, it hits close to home and it's great to see you. it's been about seven months now since your operation. you've turned 15 and started high school. how are you doing? how do you feel? >> i'm feeling great. changed my whole outcome of life. my whole outcome what i think of life. >> it was bullying and you were very candid in just how tough that bullying was on you and i'm curious, i mean, with the plastic surgery now with the operation, has the bullying stopped? >> yes, it has. i mean, i've changed a lot. a lot of people are now treating me with respect and they actually talk to me now and they say that they're sorry and they apologize for everything they did. >> you can't help but note that this is, obviously, plastic surgery. it's superficial. it's just changing your appearance. i mean, how do you feel about, is it superficial that they're apologizing just because of this change in your appearance? >> no. they probably apologize because they probably thought, wow, it must

>> the parents, uh-huh. john: the parents, to say what? we're here? he can multiply?basically to tell them what we do. with unschoolers, it's free form more than following a curriculum. for myself, i keep kind of a daily journal of what we do, and then i put that into a report that i know will satisfy the state regulations. john troy, what's five time nine? >> 45. john john that's right. many say it's a religious thing. many home schoolers are a devout christian. >> i'm not religious at all, and i hope i donned offend anybody, but i'm not religious. i think it's another myth as when you say it's not social. it's not strictly religious. john: started that way, but less so over time. amy, the last word. >> okay. john: this sounds weird to people. >> i know it does, but it's natural if you think about it. we're all self-directed learners at birth. nobody teaches us how to walk with curriculum, nobody teaches us speaking. kids grow up in bilingual households have no problem with two languages, but at five, we decide everything has to be forced on kids, learning has to be

it is with kids that have both parents and kids without the parents at home that it's happening. we need to embrace a full court program on this because the numbers tell us and dictate to us that we have to have this high level strong fierce collaboration to end bullying and to make sure it doesn't proceed into its worst stages. and so i want to just thank everyone for this collaboration, i know our human rights commission, theresa, is here, i know commissioner is here as well and all of the bay area to work together to utilize the resources that our justice department is offering. their guidance and leadership as well, and to note that it can happen to any group. if you've heard what we're trying to do here, i know other mayors across this bay area are trying to do, we're trying to unleash the talent and creativeness of all of our communities not to succumb to things that will suppress that talent and in order to do that, you've got to really erase these barriers that are created sometimes by our own ignorance and sometimes by what people think are playful things and yet they ar