hurd? >> no, i'm not saying nothing. >> you're not saying nothing?to work with me on this? >> there ain't nothing there. >> well, i'll tell you what, i'm going to put an extension on this incident. i'm going to investigate it, you want me to review cameras or film, i'll go ahead and do that. >> i don't want an extension. >> well, that's what you're going to get. you got an officer that's saying one thing, you're telling me you know nothing about it. i've got a guy down there that's telling me he's a victim. okay? >> that's up to you. what i'm saying, why you got to go interview tapes or keep me in here longer? >> you're looking at 30 days in here. >> i know. >> you're not helping me out in this situation. i'm here to help me, i'm here to listen to what you've got to tell me. what you're saying has nothing -- is not even jiving with this thing here. you've got nothing else to add to this thing? >> nope. >> okay. i'll have a determination made by the end of the day. >> a short time later, kunkel asks to speak with shamrock again. >> when i came back an

cheryl hurd has the details. >> reporter: this document is the reason why she is still on a ventilator here at oakland children's hospital. it says she must remain on the ventilator until january 7th. we got reaction from both sides in this emotional case. >> i'm not trying to hold on to a corpse. that is a live girl in there. >> reporter: reacting to a judge's move to extend the restraining order, ordering doctors to keep the 13-year-old on a ventilator until 5:00 p.m. january 7th. >> my daughter is alive. she is warm. >> reporter: follows weeks of tragedy. she came to children's hospital to get her tonsils removed. following the surgery there were complications and days later she was declared brain dead. her family has been fighting to keep her on life support. >> what baffles me is they say she is dead but won't give us her body. they want her conditions on her being moved. but it doesn't make sense. >> reporter: the hospital officials believe it doesn't make sense to keep her heart beating. >> our hearts go out to the family over the death of their daughter. we are doing everything

. >>> a family fight to keep a 13-year-old on life support still hangs in the balance, i'm cheryl hurd, tomorrow the crucial day for jahi mcmath's family. >>> a man shot in the stomach this morning is not cooperating with investigators. the shooting happened at 2:00 in the morning. police have not released much information about the victim other than he's 27 years old, in critical condition at sf general. so far no arrests have been made. >>> new details now in the legal battle over an oakland teen who was declared brain dead after tonsil removal surgery. cheryl hurd live at children's hospital with the ruling from a judge about how long the hospital needs to keep the girl on life support. cheryl? >> reporter: the judge decided to appoint a person from stanford children's hospital. his name is paul fisher. he's been here all day conducting tests on jahi mcmath. we are told they conducted brain scans, injected dye into her blood stream today, all a part of a test to see if jahi should remain on a ventilator. >> i feel like my daughter is on death row, i never know when they will pull th

reporting live in oakland, i'm cheryl hurd, nbc bay area. >>> a difficult year for b.a.r.t.say the least. if you'd like to see the full video clip of those tense moments go to nbcbayarea.com and search b.a.r.t. >>> learning more of the victim in a deadly crash in san jose last night. anthony garcia was killed by a car near the corner of vista park drive and brandon lane in south san jose. the crash happened just before 7:00 in the evening. the teenager rushed to a local hospital but died soon after. the driver is cooperating with investigators. this marks the 25th pedestrian or cyclist killed by a car in san jose this year alone. that's more than twice the number from last year. >>> the suspect accused of killing a 22-year-old over a playstation made his first appearance in court today.&'ç 21-year-old roni collins didn't enter a plea during his brief appearance. accused of shooting 22-year-old waka after arranging to buy a playstation from the victim and his girlfriend. prosecutors said collins responded to the couple on instagram and the couple met with him in the afternoon

nbc bay area's cheryl hurd is live with more. >> reporter: jessica, the family attorney is very angry tonight. he says the report has no credibility. he says that the report says that they did the autopsy on october 6th when the body was found on october 8th. and he says that's not the only problem the family has with this report. harris represents lynne spalding's children and angry he found out about the medical examiner's report through the media. >> for it to be leaked to the press, the media, it's going to come out today and not let me know that and be told this afternoon that, in fact, they have sent me a copy of this report, today, they mailed it to me. that doesn't do me any good when everybody in the universe is calling including somebody from the bbc. >> reporter: spalding disappeared 17 days before her body was found near her room in a stairwell used as a fire escape at san francisco general hospital. the medical examiner's report does not reveal exactly when she died. it only says she was deceased several days before she was found. family spokesperson david perry -- >> we

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i'm cheryl hurd live in oakland. i'll explain what happened today. >>> the family's calling it an intervention by a higher power. tonight an east bay family fighting to keep their 13-year-old on life support was given exactly what hay wanted. time. this stems from a common surgery to remove her tonsils that went horribly wrong. nbc bay area's cheryl hurd joins us at the children's hospital in oakland with the latest on this emotional story. >> reporter: raj, this letter written by a san francisco attorney is one reason why this letter got time today. it was delivered early this morning, and late this evening, hospital officials say that they will keep jahi mcmath on life support. >> you know, everybody is praying right now for this, you know, a miracle. >> reporter: that miracle came in the form of this letter this morning. a cease and desist order from an attorney demanding children's hospital oakland keep jahi mcmath on life support. >> if the facility wishes to make a legal argument, why to terminate her life, it

nbc bay area's cheryl hurd is live with more including reaction from the suspect's mother. >> reporter: i spoke to several members of the suspect's family tonight. they are outrage and told me they knew something like this cowell happen to mia cummings because they say she was having problems with a student, but the alameda county district attorney's office is painting a very different story. they say that she is behind bars facing eight counts of having sex with a minor. >> i never believed it for a second. >> mia is a good person, and she would never hurt anyone. >> reporter: but that's not the picture police and the alameda county district attorney are painting of mia cummings. the 29-year-old after-school program assistant at all saints catholic school in hayward has been charged with eight counts of lewd acts with a child under the age of 14. >> he was in the seventh grade and he was in a sexual relationship with an after-school assistant. she's 29 years old now. she was 27 when the relationship began. and he was 12 at the time the relationship began. he's now 14. >> reporter: pol

reporting live in oakland, cheryl hurd, nbc bay area news. >> very difficult story. thank you. >>> we're following developing news out of big sur. we're going to show you a map. here it is. it shows where the fire is burning. it's off highway 1 in the los padres national forest. it's heading straight toward the ocean and a lot of homes. we have team coverage on this big sur fire. chief meteorologist jeff ranieri is tracking the smoke. we begin with marianne favro who's on the front lines today. marianne? >> reporter: well, ridge, the fire is burning right now about 30 miles south of monterey. right now, there are about 300 firefighters out on the front lines, and as of just a few minutes ago, a specialized team of firefighters have arrived to help them with what's being called a very complex fire. the fire has already charred more than 550 acres and it's moving quickly. the steep terrain is so challenging a special forest team of firefighters has now been called in to help battle what's being called a complex fire. to give you an idea of where the fire is burning, th

reporting live in oakland, i'm cheryl hurd, nbc bay area fuse. >> thank you. >>> now a developing weather story. another cold night across the bay area. want to give you a live look outside in san jose. good news is we may soon get a bit of a break from the bone-chilling cold we've seen for the past few days. nbc bay area's chief meteorologist jeff ranieri has been tracking the cold snap for us. >> we're closely hone in on when the eventual break will come in the forecast. another morning today with 22 degrees. that makes five out of seven days in santa rosa with record-setting temperatures. freeze warning in effect again for tomorrow, but there is one location that's out of that and that is the peninsula. just not going to be as cold for you there. that's the fogood news. into the north bay, that's where we'll have the number one coldest widespread temperatures in marin, napa, sonoma county, temperatures 21 to 36 degrees. here's a new thing. we have a frost advisory for citiy ies around the immediate . they put a frost advisory in effect for areas that aren't going to be as cold. they ex

joe hurd. i can have a conversation via im. and i can keep--exactly-- probably half an ear on a conversation with a person. >> in the room with you. >> yeah, exactly. can you do it now? >> if you're doing two or three things at the same time, are you really doing them all well? >> well, you know, this is not neurosurgery we're talking about here. >> well, it's work, though. >> but you can do a lot of that simultaneously. >> joe may be able to pull that off, but many corporate executives say the volume of voicemail and email they get has become unmanageable, eating up an average of three hours a day. combine that with a corporate culture that values endless meetings and face time with the boss, and you can see why so many employees toil into the night just to get their real work done. we visited the corporate headquarters of best buy, the electronics retailer in richfield, minnesota. >> hey, john. it's stac'. >> employees stacy verstraight, jason dehne... >> oh, i sent it to her already. >> and marissa plume say that putting in

. ♪ >> they cleared one hurd until congress.here is a budget deal on the table, but the vote is next. and as they say in washington that's where the fight starts. libby casey is live on capitol hill with all the details. libby, the fact that we're talking about a deal being news that as it is something that congress is supposed to do is news in itself. >> reporter: that's right. patty murray, congressman paul ryan of wisconsin said the goal is to stop careening from crisis to crisis. this would create a spending framework so congress can pass some spending bills, and it would avoid any potential shutdown showdown in january, and also next fall. that's why it's significant. where we are at now, well, we came a lot closer to seeing this come to fruition this morning. congressmen went behind closed doors and when many came out many seemed like they could live with it. as you'll recall the government shutdown happened last fall it was really the house republicans and senate republicans who drew the hard lines saying they would shut

cheryl hurd was here during mandela's visit in 1990. jean elle has the impact in the world of education and sports. we begin with the worldwide tribute happening as we speak. as dawn broke, the celebration in south africa continues, the nation lovingly remembering the man. president obama said mandela's journey from prisoner to president, taught him the power of hope. >> we've lost one of the most influential, courageous and profoundly good human beings that any of us will share time with on this earth. >> reporter: mandela was born in south africa's black elite. but he led the movement against apartheid and was thrown in jail. tonight, south africans remember. >> our thoughts are with the millions of people across the world who embrace him as their own. >> reporter: when nelson mandela walked free after 27 years, he won the presidency, calling for racial reconciliation. and he made it work. no retribution. no trials. just forgiveness and an example to all. the world embraced nelson mandela. the u.s. congress gave him highest honors. to

cheryl hurd has the latest.d the hospital, also in a difficult position. >> reporter: they are, indeed, jessica. late tonight, the family of jahi mcmath say they held a meeting with the head of pediatrics, here at oakland's children's suspect. they asked if jahi could be on life support until the end of christmas. the doctor said no. but the family is barring them from telling the entire story. >> he pretty much yelled it across the table four times. we can't do that. that's an unusual request. don't you understand, jahi is dead, dead. with no compassion, at all. >> reporter: jahi mcmath's uncle is telling his reaction to reporters about the fate of the teenager. >> this is the coldest meeting we've ever been a part of since we've come here. >> reporter: jahi came to the hospital to get her tonsils removed. when she came out of surgery, there was a complication. the hospital declared her brain-dead a few days later. since then, the family has been fighting to keep her on life support. they held a nationwide pray

nbc bay area's cheryl hurd joins us. i understand, two of the animal control officers bitten? >> reporter: that's right. they're okay, but they were bitten. the dogs are being held at the animal control services in east oakland. 11 dogs in all. all of them pit bulls. now, the video you're about to see is of one of the most aggressive dogs. this dog bit two people including the executive director of animal control services. oakland police stumbled upon the alleged dogfighting operation around noon today. they were serving a search warrant on an unrelated investigation. they knew dogs would be inside the home on eldred avenue in east oakland, but they didn't know the dogs were allegedly used for fighting. >> this is, like, a 1,000 square foot or 1,100 square foot house, little house, little tiny backyard. two of the dogs were inside. nine were chained up in the backyard living in unsqualler, no water, no food. the dogs aren't physically really in horrible shape. they are all undersocialized. a couple are demonstrating signs

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the winter weather advisory and we want more from nbc bay area's cheryl hurd. i can see the traffic behind you. what are things like at this moment? >> it is wet and cold and dangerous because it is slick. it started raining really hard right now. i am live along highway 17 and as you can see, it is starting to come down. the temperatures are expected to drop which means there could be snow. if you are about to move about, please go slow. we saw tonight what can happen when it starts to rain. we got stuck behind a solo car spinout on highway 17 southbound before the summit. chp is plaming it on the slick roads. highway signs are warning that the highway can be dangerous. the rain is starting to come down hard around 9:00 tonight. people were out and about tonight enjoying the winter-like weather. >> i think the snow will be tough to come by tonight. good luck trying to find it. >> we are taking in the warmth of los gatos. the spirit of the christmas season. >> merry christmas. >> it's very cold. >> as you can see, this traffic is starting to head towards the su

nbc bay area's cheryl hurd is in oakland at children's hospital, with what the family just said minutes ago. >> reporter: a hard lesson for this family tonight. in fact, jahi's grandmother and uncle are still talking to reporters tonight. they are saying that they just can't believe that they have no rights. they say they want to keep jahi on life support. they're even willing to take her to another hospital or maybe even to a nursing home, but the hospital is saying, no. they say that that's the law. and they say that the decision that the hospital is taking jahi off of life support is something that they just can't deal with. >> she always smiled. she always called me on the weekend. she always wanted to come swimming. all she did was smile and laugh.

reporting live from burlingame, i'm cheryl hurd, nbc bay area news. >> a difficult day for many of those families. you can get the latest on the hearing and see our investigative pieces into the crash online. just head to nbcbayarea.com. it is our top story. >>> sheriff's deputies shot a suspected serial bank robber in the north bay today. shooting happened next to a busy shopping area in san rafael nine miles from where police say the suspect held up a bank. jodi hernandez is live in san rafael with more on the story for us. jodi? >> reporter: jessica, this is where the pursuit of the alleged bank robber ended today in front of this wells fargo. the big question that u trying to answer tonight, is this the notorious cotton ball bandit. the serial bank robber had bank workers in the north bay on edge for the last year. >> i heard the popping and looked outside and there was a customer running in saying close the doors. everyone get on the floor. ran and hit the door and left the door. >> reporter: that's what the banker heard and saw as sheriff's deputies confronted an alleged bank robbe

nbc bay area's cheryl hurd is live in san leandro where the mall closed a while ago. >> reporter: witnesses are telling police that they saw two men fighting in front of that old navy store and the next thing they knew, shots were fired. this lot was so crowded that security guards could not catch up with the shooter. san leandro police spent hours looking for shell casings and gathering evidence right in the middle of a busy parking lot at the bayfair mall. >> i think it's crazy. everybody's out shopping trying to get things for the holidays and somebody always has to act foolish. it's just uncalled for. it's the season to be happy. >> reporter: something went wrong at around 4:30 in front of the old navy clothing store. >> there appeared to have been some sort of a verbal altercation in the parking lot prior to the shooting occurring. we do not know what that argument was about. >> reporter: police don't know how many shots were fired. when they arrived, they saw a man on the ground suffering from a non life threatening gunshot wound. >> scary. very scary. >> that's the most shocking part

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one of the first calls also came from custodian rick thorn who told the dispatcher that he hurd the glass in the front of the building being shut out. the dispatcher asked him if he could hear anything else. i keep hearing shooting, i keep hearing popping. more phone calls surging officers to respond. he was still on the phone when officers entered the school, approximately nine minutes after that first 911 call. the gunman adam lanza killed himself within minutes after officers arrived. too late to save 20 children, six educators or lanza's mother, whose body was found in her home. state prosecutors objected to the release of the 911 tapes but it was overruled by the state judge. >> we have more on the shooting at the navy yard in washington. >> reporter: here come the lawsuits. the florida family of a woman who died, she just sued the na navy, and others, saying that officials ignored red flags about the killer's mental health. aaron alexis had a history of mental problems but he he was still given a security clearance. more lawsuits are expected. officials from the v.a. and navy are no

a special mention goes to nick hurd who has taken time out of his time able to listen to our today.and listen to us nick is a constant supporter of the youth parliament. natasha, who addressed us today and firm believer of our work. thank you for coming today. [applause] >> there may be 300 members of youth parliament here today but let's not forget all the young people involved in youth democracy who cannot be here today, but have contributed and assisted with our local campaigns and projects from the last year. we couldn't have done it without them. a to those who have done magnificent job -- [cheers and applause] >> organizing and delivering events regionally and nationally, you helped the youth parliament function and always there to give us a helping hand. you are an inspiration to us and to everyone present, i thank you for your hard work over the past ear. one person each year makes this debate possible, because without him there would probably be disarray. mr. speaker, thank you for chairing what has been a antastic debate. [cheers and applause] >> and for continuing to support

reporting live in oakland, cheryl hurd, nbc bay area news. >>> there are plenty of people on the peninsula this evening upset with pg&e. they fear a gas pipeline in san carlos could rupture like the one a few years ago in san bruno. today pg&e re-opened the san carlos pipeline at maximum pressure. nbc bay area's monty francis joins us in san carlos with reaction from all sides involved. >> reporter: raj, that line is known as 147. it runs underneath britton avenue here. this is a residential neighborhood. pg&e says the line was tested two years ago and it is safe, but many people who live here still have their doubts. >> this is a sad christmas present for san carlos. >> reporter: san carlos mayor says he was not surprised, but very disappointed, that the california public utilities commission today voted 5-0 to allow line 147 to operate at its maximum allowable pressure of 330 pounds per square inch. the line, which runs along britton avenue between highway 101 and i-280 has been operating at a lower pressure recently after an engineer expressed concerns there could be the another, quote,

john hurd shut down his abilene restaurant about a week ago because he said his employees were no longerut up a sign that said close for attitude adjustment. during the shutdown, he replaced some workers and retrained others. >> it wasn't a secret to our customers as to what was happening. the poor service, there weren't a lot of smiles. service was slower than what our customers deserve and what we expected. >> we were expecting that he is making a stand and, you know, not standing for a lack of work ethic. >> the restaurant was supposed to re-open today but the owner pushed it back until the 9th because he said he had to make more adjustments. >> attitude adjustments. >>> a man hoping to light up the holidays is getting extra attention. his festive displays in concord are featured in a new documentary. and andria borba is introducing us to mr. christmas. >> reporter: magic doesn't happen on olive drive until the lights go down. and this guy's lights go up, mr. christmas. for 35 years, retired air force lieutenant and electrician bruce mertz has been lighting up concord with his christm

.  cheryl hurd, nbc bay area news. >>> it's been three weeks since this tragedy unfolded. it all started an december 9th when jahi underwent tonsil surgery and two other procedures at children's hospital oakland. p from the operation, her family says she started bleeding heavily. and went into cardiac arrest. three days later she was declared brain dead. her family served a cease and desis order to the hospital demanding jahi be kept on life support. three days later a judge issued a restraining order that prevented the hospital from removing jahi from life support until today. christmas eve, the judge ruled jahi is brain dead after an evaluation from an independent neurologist. today was the day the hospital was allowed to remove jahi from life support but a judge extended his temporary restraining order until january 7th. >>> we have new information tonight. hewlett-packard announced 5,000 more layoffs today. the additional layoffs combined with the layoffs announced in october bring the total to 34,000 jobs that will be eliminated. hp says the cuts will take place over

cheryl hurd joins us in san francisco. the victim is well known in the community, right? >> reporter: that's true. he was honored by former mayor willie brown and also former 49er ronny lott. we don't know much about the 21-year-old who is now behind bars but police worked quickly to make the arrest. late tonight, police announced they made an arrest in the case. >> the suspect has been identified. he has been arrested. it's ronny collins. he's 21 years of age. a resident of san francisco. he's being charged with murder and attempted robbery. >> reporter: but even news of the arrest isn't doing much to help a daley city family that is now in mourning. >> he does that all the time, things like electronic, so this is what we does, every time he does it. >> reporter: that may be what cost him his life. ikenna uwakah's father is wondering how an online ad turned deadly for his son. ikenna was shot to death near the corner of bayshore boulevard around 3:30 yesterday. according to police, that's the location where he agreed to someone who responded to his online ad to sell his

we want to bring in nbc bay area's cheryl hurd who joins us on the phone in san leandrolean.ne person injured. they're still searching for the shooter. what's the scene there? is the mall open at this hour? >> reporter: it's an eerie feeling because people are here. they're still shopping. the parking lot is packed. as you said. police are still looking for the shooter. i arrived here just moments ago. what police are telling me right now is there was a shooting about 4:28 this afternoon. one person was shot. now, police are telling me it looks like preliminarily it was an argument between two people and the person who was shot is suffering from non life threatening injuries. but i'm right in front of the target. there is tape all around a few cars. the justice for girls store is closed so i assume it happened right there. right near the wells fargo. but target is open. people are shopping. probably doing their christmas shopping. and the area is packed. but police are also looking for evidence as they walk slowly around trying to look for bullet casings. so, again, this all

acosta that several executives flew to washington to voice concerns over government surveillance hurdingne of $35 billion in lost business. several were frustrated with the white house's focus on the troubled healthcare.gov site. at that meeting sources say the president said one thing he is not considered is a pardon for nsa leaker edward snowden. i spoke to a senior administration official today. he said the administration acknowledging that they have a trust gap here, wolf. that's not just with american citizens, but with foreign citizens and that trust gap has costs, and costs in american credibility, but also even for american businesses, the tech leaders in the white house yesterday talking about billions of lost business. the president is planning a speech to the public, likely in january, i'm told, to explain some of these new constraints, just to give the program more transparency. >> and which of these recommendations he accepts, and which he doesn't necessarily accept. he has to review these, i guess when he's on vacation in hawaii. rand paul was here in "the situation room."

. >> with a hurd toll the end zone! >> chargers 27, denver 20. >> all of that matters. >> how can a self-described schizophrenic be allowed to stand feet behind obama. >> in a related story, next week he starts as gary busey's life coach. >> on "cbs this morning." >> how old are you? >> 66. >> shut up. really? oh, jesus. [ laughter ] >> this morning's "eye opener" is presented by toyota. let's go places. >>> welcome to "cbs this morning." gayle king is on assignment. we begin with new revelations about the american held captive in iran. richard levinson, a retired fbi agent who retired was working for the cia. >> the u.s. has described him as a private citizen. how that's changed. john miller, you've followed the story from the very beginning. >> that's right. the associated press was asked to hold this story, norah, for levinson's safety. it did so for a period of years until yesterday. the news comes as u.s. and iran are making historic progress on nuclear talks and easing sanctions, and now the two countries have had

so it's a big hurd him.nough or worth it. it touches women more so. that i are nurturing, they look inwards. guys, we look to the outside environment. >>> we are a hunter/gathererer. >> that tends to blame something else, when a guy fails, they go, but he was a jerk. my boss was a jerk. it wasn't going my way. women are, oh my god, i'm a failure. i'm a terrible person. i'm a bad mochlts we tend to like broaden it so that it becomes a shameing thing for us. >> so true. >> instead of just this little tiny incident. >> leslie, talk about ways how we can bounce back after we experience a setback. really,er that setbacks, not necessarily failures. >> yes. >> you said we should let ourselves feel the devastation. >> don't avoid it. >> don't be paralyzed by it? i think if you try to avoid it and pretend it doesn't exist or you are moving right through it, it will come back and bite you at some other point. so you can go with it for a little bit. you don't want to sit with it forever. again, women tend to ruminate t