dr. shimi kay, author of the dolphin way, an alternative to parenting in response to tiger parenting. an advocate of bilingual education as a tool for second and rebecca levy. white house champion for change with her work on youth education. dr. kang, it's all very subjective but generally in 2014 how do you think america defines a successful child? >> sure. a lot of parents are misguided in their belief that more means better. in today's trend of over-parenting you are seriously underpreparing our kids for real life. sabotaging their self-motivation and ability to adapt. we are one of the most informed group of parents ever in history. but we are raising kids with soatsociety issues and credit obesity. if. >> overdoing it is okay because it's going to help my kid, right? >> i think we all go in with very good intentions. we want to lead them. we go in with ulterior motives. we are good at them, they should be clearly good at them. letting our kids be kids and their voices and interests shine in. >> you're community tweeting in. jonathan says, good parenting in america is differentiat