sometimes when you return something, kit hurt somebody's feelings, and so this woman wrote into phil galanis about a gift she gets repeatedly from her mother-in-law. >> and she says it happens every year, and they buy her home decor. >> and we are talking about the tchotchkes. >> of course, i got you the wooden duck, and i don't see it. >> so she didn't know what to do. and her mother-in-law is starting to get the gist, a and so she writes her a note, if you don't like the gift, give it back to me. >> and so there are more problems than home decor. >> what would you do? >> if i kept giving you carved and you didn't want them in your house. >> hmm. >> i regift things all of the time. >> and what if i went to your house, and i said, where where is the carved out owl? >> i would say, i regifted it. you say thank you, and you ask it from that point on, we skip the gifts and maybe she does not want to spend time with her, but go to the den -- dinner or the event with that person. >> and yes. and this year, we are trying to declutter, and we are trying to clear it out, but thank you. >> and the fi