elizabeth burke said she didn't worry about it much. her son ended up getting a degree in aero space engineering. another woman said her son is on a full scholarship. other parents said the opposite that they don't have cable, don't have dvds and do games and crafts and it doesn't become an issue. is there a middle ground here? >> in screen agers one of my favorite stories is a young girl who really wanted -- she was in eighth grade -- social media. when she couldn't have it she ended up sneaking it. when social cruelty did happen she was devastated that she couldn't go to her mom. the key thing is deciding within the family what seems reasonable but making sure there are guidelines. it's writing them down but being flexible and having weekly conversations. it is grabbing the device in the moment and it is just being reactionary and angry and setting up this cat and mouse thing isn't good at all for helping kids to navigate this. these weekly conversations on our website we really foster this. >> i have a 9 year old. this is definitely