that we shouldn't always -- we shouldn't have false he quif lentz. she wanted to teach the rest of the ap and she wanted me to lead the way with my columns. don't pretend there is always one hand on the other hand and they're equal. call out people when at the do wrong. use clear, concise and in some cases provocative language if that's what gets your point across. and so i was taught to do that. i'm proud of what i've done. >> in your book you talk about your son tyler and i'm a dad. i wrestle with. this lots of dads wrestle with. this you missed a lot of family life because you were going around the country covering stories that seemed very, very, very important at the time. do you feel at time you weren't there for him? >> yeah. what parent doesn't? for me, i think there is an extra shame. i write about it in "love that boy" because i had choices. a lot of parents who are working two, three jobs and can't be home with their kids, i could have been home more. it was important to my family and it was a decision my wife and i made that i take this pa