then i worked as a hairdresser, and then i was a housewife. >> habibe and paiman are among the female refugees who have an especially hard time integrating into life in germany. paiman is a 23-year-old iraqi kurd. she married at 14. now she, her husband, and their three school-age children are living in a refugee hostel in cologne. they mainly keep to themselves. >> i don't have any german friends. i only know one person, from spain. i'd like to make german friends, but i've never had the chance. >> habibe also has little contact with germans. she's only got to know one german woman at the refugee hostel. >> we've been friends with her for a year. when we have problems or get letters from the authorities, she helps us. then we make an appointment, my daughter meets her and brings the letters along. and when we have to go to the job centre, she goes with us. she helps us a lot, and we're very grateful to her. >> here in germany, habibe and her children still feel like they're outsiders looking in. the 44-year-old widow lives in her own cultural bubble and has little contact with german