exactly many are either but i want to say thank you to the folks at york shire for having me and krishan trotman for buying my book and sarah at hatchette in the publicity department. people are working so hard and also to the publicist nicole dewey and nancy and all the people who've been working really hard in this really super crazy time. to get the message out about this book. so just start with a thankyou . and i started writing about this i think when my daughter was three or four . and that was a very different time before either people were talking much about whether or not you should be writing about your children on the internet and also trans kids were not at all a subject in the media . so i think i was kind of nacve and i first started writing about oak, i have this kid who's different and ihave obese feelings about that . and that was just went out into the world and went up on parenting magazines the data website was posted, it was never edited and it didn't cause a bigstir . add years went by and my kid came home and told us that she was a tomboy. someone had given her that word