that one of the researchers found my grandfathers world war i draft application, which said, theodore burns and in parentheses, bernstein. we had always believed he was of scottish descent. and he had been born in oakland. it turns out he was born in russia and immigrated in 1906. my mother had some confused pieces of that. and my grandmother , who was parisian , i knew well. her maiden name was simon. and i discovered fairly quickly that her mother's name was david . and her mother's maiden name was levy. it did not get much more jewish than that. both my mother's parents were closeted , flash assimilated. my mother believed that they might not have even known about each other's hidden jewish identity. >> fascinating. >> the first step was to go home to my lover and tell her i was a jew . my lover was jewish. and she said , i always knew . that was my first stop as far as my immediate community. and i went back and i found my relatives in texas. i started communicating with them and they had a huge family reunion and brought in all the cousins i have never known. it was funny. southern jew