i read this book recently, the two-parent privilege, melissa carney, a really good book came out a few months ago and she reports some research in parts of the country where there were fracking booms, where suddenly, men with low education were able to obtain high paying jobs and then the researcher monitored whether marriage rates increased and whether these men became more sort of appealing partners and the answer was no. like marriage rates didn't increase and they didn't become more appealing partners, at least, you know, if you use marriage as a proxy for that. and so i think that one of melissa carney's points of the book is that this is-- there may be an economic piece here, but and maybe, you know, jobs are there, but not sufficient, but there needs to be a cultural piece, too. maybe these men needs jobs that makes them appealing, but there also has to be a culture that champions marriages and valuizing two parent families for kids and we're moving away from that. if you give high paying jobs, but the community has sort of wrecked and marriage has not been a part of the culture

and so i think that one of what of melissa carney's points the book is that this is you know, there may be an economic piece here but and maybe. you know, jobs are necessary but not sufficient that there also needs to a cultural piece to that. yes maybe these men do need jobs that make them appealing. but there also has to be a culture that champions marriage and promotes it and valorize is the two parent family for kids and more and more we're sort of drifting from that so that now even if you do give people high paying jobs and money and so forth, but the community has just sort of wrecked and marriage has not been a part of the culture for so long that, you know, that money alone isn't going mitigate the issue not only that i'm sorry that's coming thank you everyone you should read this book. absolutely riveting. you'll read it quickly because you won't be able to put down rob. so you have a ph.d. in psychology from cambridge you know, one would expect you would maybe become a practicing psychol just or seek an academic career but when you project five or ten years in the future what