michael chabon a really good book on a bunch of essays about fatherhood. and in of the essays. and part of it is him who sneaks in so. there's a great essay a lot of you've probably read he takes his son is fascinated with high fashion so he took his son to milan for fashion week right and they ended up getting because he's michael chabon you know, they got to go to all amazing events with all these great designers. and it's such a great week. and it's the whole piece sounds. you're reading it thinking, what a great father, what a great you know, this is such a great thing. and then at end, he describes talking his son about fashion week and what was favorite part. and then he talks it. he ranks it in his favorite things. like there's two things. they're both moments where his dad was not around. he at the end of it, but it's like power of that, you know, that kind of real it's not that that you think radically differently of what he was before, but there's a number of pieces in there where they arrive, these really surprising moments. a you know, you'll have to read it. but i