bee happy. bee healthy. >>> back now with ellen barkin. before we move on to this fascinating area of discussion, i want to read you one question. i go out -- it's about dating. i go out with men. you think, why am i here? this is a great dinner. why are we having dinner. why don't we just go home. isn't there a more important question. let's see if the sex thing works then we can have dinner. you are my kind of a girl. >> oh, god! >> don't answer that. let's move on. >> no, i can answer that. it is true, right? like i think we have the whole thing backwards. like first you go to dinner. then if you like each other, you have several more dinners and then you find out you're not sexually compatible. >> better to start off -- >> exactly. >> that's the big question, right? because clearly if you're not sexually compatible. >> no point wasting the dinners. >> exactly. so i say get the sex thing out of the way and then see if all