having conflicted feelings. i want to bring in eric fisher to talk about this. we talked during the break and we talked a lot about how to speak to the kids. but before we go to kids, a lot of adults who are having a really difficult time coming to terms with this internally. i told you, i was out shopping for my goddaughter yesterday who is 7 and almost started tearing up in the tarth store. is it okay to show that emotion to children? >> almost a vicarious grief that we see the grieving other people are going through and with kids so many of us fear losing them that when we see other people grieving it brings out our own fears and we go through that grieving process without necessarily having to. it is perfectly okay to show emotion. it's okay to let your kids see some tears and say i really feel sad about some things that happened around us. >> so, reject that feeling to be stoic and be the strong, stable one.