>> a lot of talk in our country and around the wld among women of having it all, prominent ck t academia and wrote memorably about not being able to do it all. you raised two children. you've been married. you have -- >> and divorced. >> but youlso ran a major at secret? firm. >> i think you cannot have it all at the same time. i think you can in a way have it all as long as you can afford to be patient and not have it all the same time. yols have to be -- you have to accept that there will be nurse, delay, along the way and be reasonable with it. so this concept thatou could have it all at the same , have youid aup professional, be a perfect mother, a perfect spouse, be