>> elaine weinstein: she basically started to cry. he grabbed a tissue and she said "i know." >> stahl: the president called elaine, apologized and took full responsibility for the death of her husband. as a final indignity, the kidnappers asked for money for warren's body, which the u.s. government refused to pay for fear that kidnappers would start killing hostages and ransoming the corpses. >> warren weinstein: ok. >> stahl: the sound of warren's voice on audio tapes... >> warren weinstein: elaine, i wanted to let you know that i'm okay. >> stahl: ...13 months after his death, is excruciating for elaine. as is looking at the videos. >> warren weinstein: please give my love to the kids and tell them that no matter what happens, i love them very much. i've always been proud of them and always will be. love you. >> stahl: you didn't even look-- at the video tapes of warren that they put out. >> elaine weinstein: i saw them once. >> stahl: that was it. too distressing? >> elaine weinstein: very painful. i mean, maybe someday i'll look a

to you. >> elaine weinstein: don't say anything. don't say that. >> warren weinstein: okay. >> elaine weinstein: we miss to get you safe. tell them not to touch you, to take care of you. he's gone.s to me, not, "get me the hell out of here," but, "i'm sorry i did this to you."ill never forget. >> stahl: they'd been married for 46 years, had two daughters and two grandchildren. warren often lived abroaddoing economic development work in places like burundi and cameroon, learning the local language and adopting th country. they were not wealthy, and when the kidnappers demanded $4 million for his release, she was shocked. that? >> elaine weinstein: no. >> stahl: could you come close? >> elaine weinstein: no. it's my husband's life. >> stahl: elaine contacted the f.b.i., which sent a team of negotiators that advised her to$4 million ransom demand by starting low. she says they suggested $250.ein: what do i know about negotiating with these people? i don't have a clue. they told me this is what you should do. i >> stahl: so instead, her

>> elaine weinstein: trying to go on with my life. trying to-- i'm still married to him. >> stahl: the white house, f.b.i. and c.i.a. declined our request for comment. two months after warren weinstein's death was made public, the f.b.i. created an interagency unit to work on hostage situations and share information with the families of those being held. financial company. at the northern press open in los angeles, bubba watson shot a final-round 68 to take the title for the second time in three years. adam scott shared scet. in a thrilling daytona 500500, denny hamlin took the race in a photo finish. and for more sports news and information, log on to cbssports.com. jim nantz reporting from riviera country club. lease a 2016 lincoln mkx for $399 a month only at your lincoln dealer. woman: it's been a journey to get where i am. and i didn't get here alone. there were people who listened along the way. people who gave me options. and through it all, my retirement never got left behind. so today, i'm prepared for anything we may want tom

>> elaine weinstein: no. >> stahl: could you come close? >> elaine weinstein: no. if i needed $4 million, i would've come up with it. it's my husband's life. >> stahl: elaine contacted the negotiators that advised her to counter the kidnappers' $4 million ransom demand by starting low. she says they suggested $250. >> elaine weinstein: what do i know about negotiating with these people? i don't have a clue. they told me this is what you should do. i thought $250 was insulting. >> stahl: so instead, her first counter proposal was $21,820. the kidnappers wrote back in chat messages: "no, it is not possible. it is very low. it look like you don't want to free warren." the f.b.i., present during these exchanges, was walking a fine line. paying ransom demands that could be used to fund terrorists operations is a federal offense. it is actually against the law for a citizen like you to give money to a terrorist. >> elaine weinstein: right. >> stahl: and the f.b.i. was facilitating it? >> elaine weinstein: yes. >> stahl: now how-- how does >> elaine weinstein: the f.b.i.

>> elaine weinstein: no. >> stahl: could you come close? >> elaine weinstein: no. if i needed $4 million, i would've come up with it. it's my husband's life. >> stahl: elaine contacted the f.b.i., which sent a team of negotiators that advised her to counter the kidnappers' $4 million ransom demand by starting low. she says they suggested $250. >> elaine weinstein: what do i know about negotiating with these people? i don't have a clue. they told me this is what you should do. i thought $250 was insulting. >> stahl: so instead, her first counter proposal was $21,820. the kidnappers wrote back in chat messages: "no, it is not possible. it is very low. it look like you don't want to the f.b.i., present during these exchanges, was walking a fine line. paying ransom demands that could be used to fund terrorists operations is a federal offense. it is actually against the law for a citizen like you to give money to a terrorist. >> elaine weinstein: right. >> stahl: and the f.b.i. was facilitating it? >> elaine weinstein: yes. >> stahl: now how-- how does that happen? >> e

>> elaine weinstein: no. >> stahl: could you come close? >> elaine weinstein: no. if i needed $4 million, i would've come up with it. it's my husband's life. >> stahl: elaine contacted the f.b.i., which sent a team of negotiators that advised her to counter the kidnappers' $4 million ransom demand by starting low. she says they suggested $250. >> elaine weinstein: what do i know about negotiating with these people? i don't have a clue. they told me this is what you should do. i thought $250 was insulting. >> stahl: so instead, her first counter proposal was $21,820. the kidnappers wrote back in possible. it is very low. it look like you don't want to free warren." the f.b.i., present during these exchanges, was walking a fine line. paying ransom demands that could be used to fund terrorists operations is a federal offense. it is actually against the law for a citizen like you to give money to a terrorist. >> elaine weinstein: right. >> stahl: and the f.b.i. was facilitating it? >> elaine weinstein: yes. >> stahl: now how-- how does that happen? >> elaine weinstein:

los en i n cuod tse ppl inta: 0- kna gwadrleg,e, l ne eng, sha callkidnpersey put warn on >> elaine weinstein: the first thing he said to me was, "i'm sorry did this to you.">> warren weinein: i am sorr did this >>e weinst't sayng.n't say th warren wen: oka >> einsteiweiss e'll do to getu safell them ouch ytake care . on thfirsthg heget me theelhere," but"i'morryid tho you. anatve. >>tath'drrd forsd o ugertwgrdc enoa thouelom vepmenwork in places lik n for he was shoc that? >>in no. suld you come close?>>stei n if ieeded $4 million, would've come up with it. it'sans tahl: aine f.ich sent aea negoatat advised h r the ki' $4 millraom deman startiow. e sahey sute$2. lainn: wdo ow a niatiit ese le n't ae.d ts ist yo sh do. i gh wul stahlnsteadher firstcor as $21 bac chs notssibles very it loo you dont to alkiineline randemaat c sed d te opers a fedeoffense. tually again t to ve monen: right. >> stahl: and the f.b.i. w ting elaine wein y >> stahlw - how do that >> einstein:.b.i. sao me ibeginn "it ainstaw f to a ransor youand.but nodyas eenprosecut t : elai a experiage nego firmg with t f.o vi >>

. >> leslie stahl: when warren weinstein was kidnapped in pakistan, the ordeal his wife elaine went through over the next several years revealed the level of desperation so many american families have experienced in trying to get their loved ones freed from terrorist groups. >>love you. >.stahl: were you prepared for this? >> how could you be prepared for this?

wrote about "the hostage," our story of an american, warren weinstein, who was abducted and held for ransom in pakistan and his wife elaine's efforts to free him. weinstein, an economic development worker employed by a government contractor, was accidently killed in an u.s. drone strike while being held by al qaeda. a florida viewer felt "60 minutes" was wrong to report the f.b.i. advised mrs. weinstein on u.s. law forbids that. "the hostage should not have been aired, you did not help other captives! broadcasting fbi and u.s. government positions only aids the terrorists." robert brands stuart, fl "while i fully understand the pain, mourning and loss that mrs. weinstein feels, i firmly believe that anyone travelling into the most dangerous places on earth must do so of their own free will and with no expectation of rescue." d. michael johnson new york, ny and then there was this: "any of us is sad when our citizens die abroad at the hands of a gang of terrorists .but the interview made our government seem to be responsible for his ransom." katherine nelson brookfield, wi i'm scott pelley. we'll be back next week with a bra

. >> leslie stahl: when warren weinstein was kidnapped in pakistan, the ordeal his wife elaine went through over the next several years revealed the level of desperation so many american families have experienced in trying to get their loved ones freed from terrorist groups.

. >> leslie stahl: when warren weinstein was kidnapped in pakistan, the ordeal his wife elaine went through over the next several years revealed the level of desperation so many american families have experienced in trying to get their loved ones freed from terrorist groups. >>love you. >.stahl: were you prepared for this? >> how could you be prepared for this? you can't. >> i never had held life and death in my hands and i'm telling you i held his life in my hands. >> you're going to fix it... now! >> steve kroft: michael fassbender and kate winslet are both up for oscars. >> fix it! >> what the? >>kroft: not because they are great actors, but because they had demanding roles in a very unusual movie that allowed them

. >> leslie stahl: when warren weinstein was kidnapped in pakistan, the ordeal his wife elaine went through over the next several years revealed the level of desperation so many american families have experienced in trying to get their loved ones freed from terrorist groups. >>love you. >.stahl: were you prepared for this? >> how could you be prepared for this? >> i never had held life and death in my hands and i'm telling you i held his life in my hands. >> you're going to fix it... now! >> steve kroft: michael fassbender and kate winslet are both up for oscars. >> fix it! >> what the? >>kroft: not because they are great actors, but because they had demanding roles in a very unusual movie that allowed them to show just how good they are. >> tell me what's wrong with you this morning. >> i just knew that it was going to be electric to be in a room with michael fassbender and danny boyle and i promise you, it absolutely was. >> i'm steve kroft. >> i'm lesley stahl. >> i'm anderson cooper. >> i'm bill whitaker. >> i'm scott pelley. minutes."luredaer iwayse rimptosen e yoart pumpwell. filoom)

. >> leslie stahl: when warren weinstein was kidnapped in pakistan, the ordeal his wife elaine went through over the

. >> leslie stahl: when warren weinstein was kidnapped in pakistan, the ordeal his wife elaine went through over the next several years revealed the level of desperation so many american families have experienced in trying to get their loved ones freed from terrorist groups. >>love you. >.stahl: were you prepared for this? >> how could you be prepared for this? you can't. >> i never had held life and death in my hands and i'm telling you i held his life in my hands. >> you're going to fix it... now! >> steve kroft: michael fassbender and kate winslet are both up for oscars. >> fix it! >> what the? >>kroft: not because they are great actors, but because they had demanding roles in a very unusual movie that allowed them to show just how good they are. >> tell me what's wrong with you this morning. >> i just knew that it was going

. >> leslie stahl: when warren weinstein was kidnapped in pakistan, the ordeal his wife elaine went through over the next several years revealed the level of desperation so many american families have experienced in trying to get their loved ones freed from terrorist groups. >>love you. >.stahl: were you prepared for this? >> how could you be prepared for this? you can't. >> i never had held life and death in my hands and i'm telling you i held his life in my hands. >> you're going to fix it... now! >> steve kroft: michael fassbender and kate winslet are both up for oscars.

. >> leslie stahl: when warren weinstein was kidnapped in pakistan, the ordeal his wife elaine went throughver the next several years revealed the level of desperation so many

. >> leslie stahl: when warren weinstein was kidnapped in pakistan, the ordeal his wife elaine went through over the next several years revealed the level of desperation so many american families have experienced in trying to get their loved ones freed from terrorist groups. >>love you. >.stahl: were you prepared for this? >> how could you be prepared for this? you can't. >> i never had held life and death in my hands and i'm telling you i held his life in my hands. >> you're going to fix it... now!