will be a third , it is flying like this, and no one expected that the city was just an air bomb , maiziut electricity, without water, they lived in the basement, they ate a plate of rice there during the day, uh, i had to go looking for firewood to at least somehow survive , i hate them now because my child had to sit in the basement and drink rainwater , i left sometime at the end of march, beginning of april i can't remember exactly but three our family is cold, nine people in one car, we stood at the berdyan checkpoint in line for 7 hours, probably all the men in the car, they undressed me, they undressed me and saw a belt, i was wearing a tactical belt, they hit me , where do you serve, i say i don't serve anywhere , they pointed a machine gun at a girl with as a child in the car. they asked where your boyfriend is serving. he says he doesn't serve anywhere. put him down in an emergency. they put him on his knees, undressed. he waited for about an hour until the van came to pick me up. they took me to the van and took him to the berdyanskyi police department. it was a night there. t

mostly for maizie and hunter, they deserve this.s. we literally get up and have coffee and say, all right, we're going to go forward. >> i was so struck by something you wrote that was on social media earlier this year, you said we spend no time being angry. that would be energy not well spent, and it wouldn't change theout come. and we have to look ahead. >> yes >> that's your philosophy? >> it doesn't change the outcome. even looking ahead to the trial coming up in october now, we choose to not -- it does not change the outcome of our family and it's energy that we need to put into healing our kids. and, you know, getting back to a new family dynamic and working on that. so, we let the prosecutors do their job. and we do our job in our family. >> do you think you'll come to the trial? >> no. >> too hard? >> it doesn't change the outcome. it is just energy that doesn't feel like it's well spent. you know, there's other places to put it. >> ethan, as we saw, was such an extraordinary young man. one of those light up the room type of