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well narcissist is in our contacts around the book and around my office sort of with bob filner is a man who feels entitled to be trade use interviews to humanize objectify and a woman and. create heiresses. in this country more and probably any other country our level of social pathology is leading the world and but the owner is just one example that we have created a narcissistic nation because we have forgotten with families who are in family is who are raising children who are happy yoffie of all and will contribute to civil society and even though i have clever little keitel to my work it really contains all of the truth about how we raise a happy healthy child or how we don't. bob. please don't misconstrue what i'm about to say i'm not defending bob filner he would say however and has said basically that his behavior was reflecting a set of values that were from the fifty's or sixty's and if you watch the t.v. show mad men you see that kind of behavior writ large has our society over the last forty or fifty years become less tolerant of narcissism at least at least in a sexist

but ceres, the largest the most beautiful of the stars is the narcissist with its red and gold carp and escallonia flower? yes, yes i have. it carries its blooms in a sphere, like the sphere of heaven, strewn with white flowers. yes. oh, god, how wonderful. who first imagined this vision? you. you. you and i together. we have given birth to a vision. we are wed. not yet. what remains? the waiting, the trials, the patience. good, try me. tell me, why do your parents sit so silently in there never saying a word? because they have nothing to say to each other and neither will believe what the other says. my father once said, "what is the point of our talking? we cannot deceive each other?" how horrible. here comes the cook. look at her. how big and fat she is. what does she want? she wants to ask me about dinner. must we bother about what happens in the kitchen? we have to eat. look at her. i can't look at her. but who is this ogress? one of the hummel's had bred a vampire. she is devouring us. - why don't you dismiss her? - she won't go. we have no control over her. she is our punishment

. >> ferris bueller technically is a narcissistic selfish con man who got his friends to do what they didn't want to in first place. >> they're not so different, these guys. kanye, any last words? >> cool. >> yay! >> kanye! >> how you doing? >> we got nasia luken, 2008 gymnast. she's a new york city fashion week. and it'sing the video 11 minutes long. i'm breezing through it and i see jared, the subway guy and i'm like fashion week in new york and i see a girl strutting down the runway covered in subway napkins. they did "project subway" instead of project runway. >> four designers had two weeks to design and you could only use products found in subway re

morris hank greenberg was considered one of the world's preeminent unapologetic narcissist even before he sued the government for providing an insufficiently generous bailout joe cassano former chief of a i use financial products division was another first arrogantly blew off the accountants who warned him his portfolio of hundreds of billions of uncle lateralized bets might destroy the world and that secondly he appeared.

morris hank greenberg was considered one of the world's preeminent unapologetic narcissists even before he sued the government for providing an insufficiently generous bailout joe cassano former chief of a i g.'s financial products division was another first he arrogantly blew off the accountants who warned him his portfolio of hundreds of billions in uncle lateralized bets might destroy the world and that secondly he appeared before congress and paraded them for not giving him his money there are rights of the energy executives getting the bonuses in addition to eighty five billion tax bear cash. they feel persecuted they feel persecuted similarly to the way black slaves in america were lynched raped tortured and murdered in the deep south he sees a kinship there that cracker on wall street sees a kinship with the way blacks were lynched it you know here's what i think black america should do in light of this revelation they should demand reparations for having built the united states of america they are owed by some calculations and this was an. a few years ago five to seven trillion

morris hank greenberg was considered one of the world's preeminent unapologetic narcissist even before he sued the government for providing an insufficiently generous bailout joe cassano former chief of a i use financial products division was another first arrogantly blew off the accountants who warned him his portfolio of hundreds of billions in uncle lateralized bets might destroy the world and that secondly he appeared before congress and rated them for not giving him his money. right so the energy executives getting the bonuses and in addition to eighty five billion tax bear cash . they feel persecuted they feel persecuted similarly to the way black slaves in america were lynched raped tortured and murdered in the deep south he sees a kinship there that cracker on wall street sees a kinship with the way blacks were lynched it you know here's what i think black america should do in light of this revelation they should demand reparations for having built the united states of america they are owed by some calculations and this was an. a few years ago five to seven trillion dollars in

i tnk it is the extent to what people fake like on facebook we are all racing a generation of narcissistic people who want to seem a -- as they have more a's than they are getting them. gerri: there is a huge cheating scandal one year ago in the school gets very upset they're not happy because it is a black guy and in between that time they have a quiz bowl and the wind was invalidated because when she did. if he think about those kids going to harvard will they clean up therash? know they will run the country. these are the people we are relying on for leadership positions. >> you cannot have integrity without autonomy we have a culture that takes autonomy from people and encouraging them to be dependent on the system. when people realized it does not intend for them to take charge of their lives, for them to dictate their own moral code they have contempt for the system we will raise our generations of people with contempt. gerri: you are telling me these harvard kids feel disenfranchised? >> right now there are so many forces that don't encourage you to take control. decide what you sta

(laughs) you know how many words there are for narcissist? elisa: scotty. hey. you okay? yeah.you upstairs. hi... uh, i'm elisa. lilly. hi. my partner. you're a detective? yeah. you're so beautiful. thanks. see you up there. did i embarrass you? no. you never told me your partner was a girl. yeah. you... okay today? yeah. it's a good day, i think. quiet. no box on these two jobs. had to go to missing persons. a white woman and black man disappeared together june 3, 1969. missing persons didn't knock themselves out. if you're over 18 and of sound mind, you're allowed to disappear. and the lifestyle. a lot of people disappeared in the '60s. some of 'em don't even know it. the woman was julia hoffman, 22, reported missing by her parents, now deceased. lived in a commune. disappeared with gerard gary, 23. looks like julia's station wagon disappeared, too. we ran an ncic search, see if the car ever turned up anywhere, but no luck. these bodies were dumped professional-style in that construction site. which says organized crime. vera: so how does that intersect with hippies? valens:

narcissistic, but this is not even inspeiering.etend. he can be doing this in his closet and it would have the same effect on america. >> we can say that a million times, but he gets to say i dieded on thdied on that hill for the purpose of defeating obama care and i was alone. then i went to a fund-raiser. >> i think marco rubio gets the better side. >> we can say it's phony, but the grass roots tea partiers he is aiming for, one of the things ted cruz did was shifting the narrative and making it seem as if this is a fight between ted cruz and harry reid and barack obama. they made us forget about the fact that they are filibustering their own bill. it's actually quite a messaging feat. >> this was bizarre. people that just woke up this morning, we have to let you know what's going on. ted cruz is filibustering not obama care, but a fake filibuster. let me restate that. ted cruz is fake filibustering the house of representative bill that defunds obama care. he is fake filibustering a bill that does exactly what he wants to do. why

. >> the people that want to stay alive are the narcissists.he people that run google and you. >> we welcome your death. >> people like yourself can't imagine a world they don't live in. they can't imagine being hoold d dying. >> i imagine all of that. >> we're going to figure out ways of getting high when we have no body. that's so yes. >> then you'll have the dead occupying cemeteries like occupy wall street. they'll be protesting. instead of being contrite, they want to put up a fight. several parents are considering a lawsuit against bryan hollaway after they trashed his louse. they broke windows and urinated on carpets and caused 20 grand in damages. the former new england patriot created a website naming many of them including pictures they posted on social media from the party. he says that instead of making amends some parents threatened legal action over the site. >> all the things that were broken could be fixed. everything could be returned. there's 300 lives at stake. i have parents upset at me. your child was in my housebreaking an

. - all of which makes her the moon and the stars for a narcissistic jerk like damon. - yes, in the tradethinking that maybe there's a near-miss, someone who didn't actually get killed. - let's check a person with strong opinions of maya. let's see what he feels about damon. - you say you warned her about damon kerrigan? - yeah, but she just thought i was trying to get back with her. - mm. and you weren't? - it was good with maya, but no matter how i reassured her, she always freaked out that i was gonna leave her. - then damon appeared, and she left you. - it wasn't quite that simple. damon was seeing another nurse's aide. - and maya knew that? - yeah. maya used to steal drugs for her. the two were friends. maybe more. - more? wait, what more? - there was talk that she, damon, and maya were, you know, doing three-ways. then five months back, janine just up and left. - janine. what's her whole name? - janine lutz. - mm-hmm. - my friend in human resources says maya's still trying to reach her, but they don't have her current address. - did you find janine lutz? - i'm finally learning to us

you know, it takes a certain kind of narcissist to run a fortune 500.ked about a bigwig wall street type with expensive kinky tastes. - david novak is low-level. nathan grayson has the real power. - okay. you have a hunch, but it shouldn't take this off of david novak. find proof he had sex with amber. - there's not one call, text, or email. - hey, you know what i'm thinking? kevin maybe stalked her movements. - hmm. - we have his cell phone. - yeah. we'll do a gps trace, check hotels in the area. - good. - the doorman at this midtown hotel confirms david gave him cash for rooms. - and about a week ago, he's caught on tape with--watch this. that's kevin denaburg. - okay, amber's testimony plus this? time for the d.a. - well... - am i sensing hesitation? - look, david doesn't put up any kind of fight. he's an iraq war veteran, two tours. we talk to him, he's tense, on edge. but when kevin attacks him right here, he doesn't turn violent. - unless he saved the best for last-- sawing off kevin's head, hands, and feet. - that may be true. [children chatterin

i will not let you get away with being a cystic and feeling sorry for yourself -- narcissistic. you have to help your mom pay back america. i would've been dead in china and would never get the opportunity. america give me the opportunity. i will give to you. you will never be, she's at stanford right now. she will never get that chance being nobody's daughter. and you have to pay back. i can see her being helpful, like with her skills building house, and plumbing, and she can go surf, surf were people meter. so that was my dream. and sold it imposing, i said, i admit. >> you mention on the phone the other day, that you go back to china regularly, and you are worried that this generation of chinese kids is going in the direction of the privileged spoiled american your. >> i went to china, and my friends, their children's birthday, and whatever celebrations, the priority, the highest place is that donald's and kentucky fried chicken. that's where they celebrate. they don't want to go to chinese restaurant. it's everything america. and now kids asking them for money to go to ameri

i put a lot of my own childhood into the suburbs but that was my favorite maybe i am more of a narcissist. [laughter] >> in your research stage you figure the savings-and-loan collapse? maybe you were too young but did you discover why it happened? >>. >> that was due to regulatory reform that allowed the market to become more concentrated the whole point was to promote home ownership but that went on steroids saw a the end of the second or third chapter with the analysis of the united states how we're the only market in the world with a 30 year mortgage why we have that makes monthly payments loader does that make sense? probably not indigos through all of that's. i also go into from the mid-90s through 2007 at least we had them as regional banks but with the interlay -- a state baking laws teams you had so much consolidation the big banks this supermarket was not only originating products but also selling them and selling them around the world is easier than originating so they would buy more and more if you look at merrill or ubs during that time it was not the deaf there were not orig

i am not a great fan of social media and the narcissistic, but, you know what?t is interesting, because the popular culture evolves, and in the 1950's, mamie eisenhower, although seen as very much a traditional figure, she was every bit as much a fashion role model, a cultural icon as jackie kennedy was just a few short years later. >> and the next administration. everybody copied her bangs. >> television was the internet of its day. >> she was always on the best dressed list, which looks a little strange to us now, post jacqueline, but in her day, she was thought to be one of the most best-dressed women in america, and she continued to make the best dressed lips, listing top american -- make that best-dressed lists. ike had real health problems. it made it easier for the first lady to drop -- to adopt the more traditional protective stance. >> mamie eisenhower perhaps lesser-known. we found in the first series, there were quite a few that we introduced people to. who are the gems? the unknown gems? >> grace coolidge. the best first lady you know nothing about,

i am more of a narcissist, i don't know. i think we have a question over here. >> new research, did you come to a conclusion about what transpired, loans collapsed in 1970s. and personal experience why is it happening? >> guest: the savings and loans crisis was caused by regulatory reform which allowed them to open in the commercial real-estate market and become much more concentrated real-estate. hold point was to promote home ownership, on steroids. what came from -- the second or third chapter goes through an exhaustive analysis of the history of housing in the united states and we are the only market in the world with the 30 year mortgage. why do we have a 30 year mortgage to make monthly payments lower? does that make any sense? probably not. it goes through all of that. you also see, i happen to go into parts of -- from the mid 90s to 2007, so much financial consolidation and regional banks and in the 80s when the interstate banking law change you have so much consolidation. big banks, when they were financial service

you have a president essentially a narcissist. >> come on, monica. come on. >> i am trying to answer your question. >> a little too broad with the criticism. >> i am not buying it. go ahead. >> this gets to your point. this is a man who only relies on barack obama. his inner circle throughout his five years as president has been his wife, valley jared, david axelrod and a couple other people. there isn't anybody there because he never listened to anybody else. >> there isn't anybody experienced enough to say if you do this, that is likely to happen. >> even the experienced people around him, he has never listened to, whether it was bill daley, chief of staff or rahm emanuel. he doesn't listen to anybody else except himself. >> i think you have a point. >> no disconnect, no one knows what that means. keep it honest. >> to pick up on what you said, he had a great team around him in two elections. he ran what some people -- >> good election team. >> political. >> and like david plouffe is gone. if he kept those people around to advise him here, he may h

we've witnessed ted cruz this week sponsored by the american society of narcissists and you've reportedrilliantly all week on his performance. he now would appear to be the kind of head the de facto or apparent head of the republican party certainly in most places of the media. you open any newspaper including your, his face is on the front page of everything. >> right. he is the de facto leader of the senate and mitch mcconnell has to listen and do what he said. the filibuster or bladder buster, whatever we call it was a failure. the only way it was a success in boosting ted cruz's prominence and his importance to the tea party. he knew that's what he was doing. this was all about ted cruz in the first place and it was a spectacular success at that. now, it brought us all closer to a showdown here, but, of course, that's of little difference to him because he's the leader of basically it's government by ransom like hostage-takers. you do as we say or the hostage is going to get it, in this case the hostage is the american economy. >> joy reid and dana milbank, thanks for joining us. >>

this is a way of a president who narcissistically always speaks about me and my.we could say he spoke about the my in military and astonishing formulation who when it suits him decides it is not me or my, but this is a responsibility that belongs to congress. i don't think it is going to work, everybody understands it is about him, and i think he is the one who will be damaged if it doesn't pass in congress. >> he did say back in august, 2012, a red line for us. the problem for the administration perhaps, juan, is that the us on the world stage doesn't seem like it is showing up, as far as other members of the coalition. >> i think he meant the united states, but of course, i find this conversation off in the weeds. if it is about mocking obama, okay, but i don't think that's the big issue here of the day. clearly there have been international treat east against use of chemical, biological weapons, gases. >> we talked about that earlier. where are the other countries. >> that's the point. you know what, they're not showing up and i think they're not showing up for

maybe i'm more of a narcissist come to i don't know. i think we have a question over here. >> in your research did you come to some kind of conclusion into what happened with the savings-and-loan collapse in the 1970s? may be beyond your personal experiences but did you discover why? >> the savings-and-loan crisis was caused by regulatory reform which allow them to open up and to the commercial real estate age -- market and become more concentrated. the whole point was to promote homeownership on steroids. so i think it's a second or third chapter that goes through an exhaustive analysis of the history of housing in the united states how we are the only market in the world with a 30-year mortgage. why do we have a 30-year mortgage to make monthly payments lower? payments lower classes that make make any sense? probably not. it goes through all of that. you also see how -- i also go into parts of, from really the mid-90s to 2007 you had so much financial consolidation. in the 80s when the interstate banking laws changed you had so much c

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she's very brazen, very outspoken, extremely intelligence, insightful, a raging narcissist -- [laughter] and budding alcoholic, a terrible mother, a devoted mother -- [laughter] you know? and supremely talented and won't cower before anybody. so she's sort of this very interesting creature. i really loved writing her. but she's doing this interview with this guy, and the guy -- and she says, well, you know, writing is really an act of thievery. you scratch beneath any piece of beautiful writing, and you will find all manners of this honor, because writing involves taking things taha don't belong to you -- take that don't belong to you. i'm not talking about plagiarism. >> right, exactly. >> what i'm saying is not taking mr. eggers' work, you know? that's ladies and gentlemennism. but what she means and what i mean as well is that you do, as horrible as it sounds, you can't write from a vacuum. you can't just make things up out of the blue. ultimately, you've heard something, you've seen something, you've been told something, you've observed something that struck you as very interesting,

and the problems that obama is such a narcissist that he surrounds himself with people who aren't of of a gates or a panetta and that's why he is where he is. >> perfect, charles. >> not now. >> surround themselves with people of stature they work for president obama. >> first year he came in as amateur and outsider. he had all kinds of people of stature. he gets reelected. he decides i know everything. there is nobody in the room who would tell him exactly what panetta and gates told him. had we had that the farce we have seen over the last month would not have happened. >> bret: very strong to follow. more with the panel final thoughts after a break. i got this. [thinking] is it that time? the son picks up the check? [thinking] i'm still working. he's retired. i hope he's saving. i hope he saved enough. who matters most to you says the most about you. at massmutual we're owned by our policyowners, and they matter most to us. whether you're just starting your 401(k) or you are ready for retirement, we'll help you get there. ♪ don't tell mom. don't tell mom. don't tell mom! don't tel

maybe i'm more the narcissist. i don't know. i think we have a question over here. >> in your research, did you come to some kind of a conclusion on what transpired with the savings and loans collapse in the 1970s? maybe you were at the end of your personal experience but did you discover why it happened? >> by the savings and loan -- the savings and loan crisis was called by regulatory reform which allow them to open up into the commercial real estate market and become much more concentrated real estate. the whole point was to promote homeownership. what came from i think the second or third chapter that goes through an exhaustive analysis of the history of housing in the united states and how the only market in the world with a 30-year mortgage. why do we have a 30-year mortgage? to make monthly payments lowered. does that make any sense collects probably not and it goes through all of that. so you also see how i also go into parts of, from really the mid-90s to 2007 you have so much financial consolidation. savings and loans

i think omar, you know, al shabab in trying to discredit him sort of famously called him a narcissistthink omar would have admitted there was some truth to that. he had a very high expectation for himself, let's put it that way. and he didn't go halfway on something. he went all the way when he could. >> so does that have to do with why he broke from al shabab? >> i think it did. he had specific grievances with al shabab. part of the reason he broke with al shabab is al shabab is pretty terrible. so his complaints included that they were assassinating leaders within the group who expressed dissent. they treated the foreign fighters like himself and some others badly. there was inequitable distribution of war spoils. he had a number of complaints. they all sort of boiled down to al shabab being corrupt and brutal in way he felt was not consistent with jihadist values. >> and so much of his frustrations were, you know, leaked onto twitter. how entrenched, bigger picture, in terms of social media, is it in this great er terror movemen? >> social media is really enjoying a surge in terms

other machine, and the more you know about it the better off you will be, or you are the most narcissisticeople in the world. [laughter] how much is this tracking going to change behavior question mark -- behavior? if 40% of people who have issues, then tracking can help and we are talking about things like body sensors, pedometers, part pressure monitors, so we are talking about you being the computer in a series of devices performanceeet your the same way you might have done to your computer. we are walking distance. we have the social networks. we are going to have wearable technology. if you do not go to the cocktail without your job own or your strides, like people would be talking about you. you have your wearable, you have your smartphones that goes up to the clouds and sends the information from the wearable. think of the wearable with sensors with ip addresses. since he all sorts of things about you and putting that information to your phone and then to the internet. that is what is happening right to, and i want to think about this. there is a couple rule that the smaller the scr

. >> ferris bueller technically is a narcissistic selfish con man who got his friends to do what they>> they're not so different, these guys. kanye, any last words? >> cool. >> yay! >> kanye! >> how you doing? >> we got nasia luken, 2008 gymnast. she's a new york city fashion week. and it'sing the video 11 minutes long. i'm breezing through it and i see jared, the subway guy and i'm like fashion week in new york and i see a girl strutting down the runway covered in subway napkins. they did "project subway" instead of project runway. >> four designers had two weeks to design and you could only use products found in subway restaurants. >> that's find of fun. >> you're going to defend this? it's stupid! >> it's fun. >> she's wearing plastic bags that say subway. that is embarrassing. >> you have a stupid high fashion designer doing $10,000 dumb dresses nobody would say or wear. or you could say, here's what you can do in the third world, you can be fashionable, you can find things, take in napkins here and branches here and boom, you got an outfit. >> that was a nice try to make it up as

. >> everything he has done is indicative of a narcissistic personality disorder. all about him. >> reporter: when investigators first searched his home last may they found a confessional note from 2004 in which he wrote about suicide. i want to put an end to my life and let the devil deal with me. >> what about suicide? you still? >> reporter: castro was not on suicide watch in the state prison where he was being held but was supposed to be checked by guards every half hour. prison officials say they're investigating how he was able to hang himself ending his life and his life sentence. in a statement the county prosecutor that put castro away called castro a coward who couldn't take for even a month a small portion of what he had dished out for more than a decade. the message he said to other child kidnappers, you will not enjoy the captive side of the bars. >> it's so extraordinary to see the tapes. on one hand, your stomach turns to hear what he has to say and i'm overwhelmed by the strength of the survivors. is there something to be gained by looking at the ta