are you a parent, many -- are you a parent, daniel? >> yes. it really hits home. >> please feel free to call back if you learn anything more. we will continue to monitor this breaking story. one student shot at perry hall high school. the student was airlifted to shock trauma. the shooter has been taken into custody. there is no longer a threat at the school. what they're trying to do now is evacuate the students in an orderly fashion. tim, are you learning anything more? >> we understand from sources that this was apparently the work of a lone student. we are told that this was a troubled students who entered the cafeteria, certainly someone observed in the cafeteria. at that time, there was someone who was able to maybe bring him down. and one shot was fired and maybe another shot was fired in the process. they labeled this a troubled student. perry hall high school, by the way, as baltimore county's largest high-school. we understand that parents are being told to go to the perry hall shopping center, just down the road from the main campus

around the parent's addiction. so rather than the child getting what they need developmentally, the family is really kind of putting the child's needs last in order to keep the family just functioning. so that sometimes means that children are actually flipping roles with their parents and becoming parentified, where they are in a role that is not appropriate for them. the lines of authority are not clear or they change, depending on whether the parent is high or not high. so there is a lot of inconsistency for children. so, fran, let me go back. a child that is within one of these families, they're dealing with a problem many of them themselves in order to adapt, either develop a mental or a substance use pattern themselves. how-what happens in that dynamic? i think kim described it very well with the total dysfunction of the family and the family, if we don't intervene and find ways to go in and bring services to help them, the child can then get so confused and so frustrated from trying to be a parent and being

tyler clary's parents describe it. describe the emotion of that moment. >> i think the best -- we all dream of doing things. into to watch your son -- i can't -- i can't. >> it's unreal. very surreal. is it really happening? i mean, it's wonderful. >> it's an amazing feeling. i can't put it in words. >> reporter: and it's not just here at the olympics. it's a feeling every parent with identify with. even in movies like "kicking and screaming" where will ferrell shows the extreme side of parenting from the sideline. >> it's almost as if the parent is down there on the playing field instead of the child doctor there avine, a psychiatrist and author, says it's time to cut our kids slack. >> i think parents have gotten too wrapped up in their kids' lives and in the wrong ways and not the right ways. they are wrapped up in academic and athletic. we have no emphasis or character and completely on performance. >> reporter: when you see some of the examples of people pushing too hard, pushing too far with their kids these day

the parents of the bystander, the parents of the bully, and the parents of a child who was the victimlly is time for parents to take charge of this, and i'm thrilled to be a part of the ad council, which peggy has come and facebook and aol and white family foundation and the department of education and j&j, and the creators of the bullying movie, too, are a part of all this, all focused on all parents to realize that this issue impacts all children. the resource for the campaign is of course stopbullying.gov, and what i try to do is focus on the human side by talking to the parents, talking to the children. i spoke to children, spoke to dozens of parents but also spoke to a 15 girl whose dozens -- whose younger sister was around nine years old, and she of course it's bullied. this older sister is trying very hard to pave the way for little sister to stop being victimized. and one of the things that she has done with her and her friends at 15, she was doing this for a couple of years, is they have gotten together to do this smile and hug program. and when they see a kid who is by thems

that leads to the termination of parental rights for that parent that has been double -- deported. one in four children is the child of an immigrant. if you look at the numbers, recognize the significance of this issue. the resolution that i am introducing is a resolution that supports two pieces of legislation. california bill sb 1064 and federal bill h.r. 6128 whose primary objective is to keep families together in these kinds of situations where a parent is placed in an immigration proceeding. these pieces of legislation would do the following. that would make immigration status irrelevant for determining the placement of a child. it makes foreign forms of identification valid in potential proceedings including proceedings that require background checks. it actually extends the hearing time and custody -- in custody cases so that when a parent who is undocumented is deported, the loss of parental rights does not happen as expeditiously as it happens right now. it also creates an agreement between local governments and foreign consulates to achieve family reunification. at the en

, undocumented parent ended up in the deportation of that parent.t's almost nine out of every 10 cases end up in family separation. that's a really major number. so while we can neatly separate and authorize and simply focus our efforts on the latter group, the truth is immigration enforcement bully has a number of people and is the level of the family and the community that are enforcing decisions that hit home. so gustavo and israel will be talking about today. the manager does our panel. all the way on my way up we have joanna, dreby author of our new report. next is executive director of the national agency of women's forum. sad wessler, investigative reporter at colorblind.com. and finally, ajay chaudry as director for policy at the assistant secretary for evaluations at the u.s. department of health and human services. did i get that right? >> yeah. >> good. >> what is it about your resource and what happens to families that experience deportation? >> short time i start that i didn't anticipate writing actually about enforcement activities. it

helping other parents. you know, the formal system is extremely important to be there with treatment and with recovery supports, but the power of what erica is doing with reaching out and really offering that "i've been there, i understand. you can do it. i did it." and someone said to me that what they really got when they were engaged with the parent partner was hope. that their life could change. that their family could change. that they could parent their children and that there was a way out. because in the depths of the addiction or the mental illness, you really don't see what's the path, "how do i get out of this?" "what is there besides jail or besides institutions?" so the power of mutual aid, i don't think can be understood-or understated rather. can i add something to that? we've been talking a lot about prevention and some of about treatment, but i always like to say one of my mantras is after care should not be an afterthought. we're talking about the continuum of family recovery, and so for t

helping other parents. you know, the formal system is extremely important to be there with treatment and with recovery supports, but the power of what erica is doing with reaching out and really offering that "i've been there, i understand. you can do it. i did it." and someone said to me that what they really got when they were engaged with the parent partner was hope. that their life could change. that their family could change.

guilty of extreme parenting.s there an argument to be made sometimes, though, kids aren't trying hard enough. >> sure. sometimes doesn't try hard enough. i think the secret adults have is we grow up and we do what we're good at. we are kind of average at a bunch of things and not very good at some other things. kids need to know this. nobody is expected to be 100% all the time. >> right. you advise parents need to take it down a notch. >> right. >> you say make sure they are getting nine hours of sleep, especially teens, preteens. why is that number so important. >> it's what the american academy of pediatrics recommends. we have a boatload on the negative effects of sleep. the next thing parents need a life of their own. kids don't see adulthood of working all week long, being exhausted and then snding every hour on the weekend watching your kid hit a ball. spend some time with your husband or girlfriend or hobby or something that makes adulthood and growing up look attractive to kids. >> good advice. i hope, my

and that is what parents -- the predator stuff, parents are going to have to educate their kids.omething very appropriate. let your uncomfortable, you need to talk to your parents, a teacher, whoever you're comfortable talking to about this before it gets worse. >> the children's online privacy protection act is aimed at children under 13. providing enough protection? kids and the 13th. enough protections in the? >> no. >> abcaeight. >> in that time again, the federal government, it's pretty vanilla, but i think that one of the insidious potential components of opening facebook up the kids under 13 is it just who is advertising to them, who is the new market that is getting at them. other fast food chains going after them? are there is soda companies going after them? you really want to make sure that there are -- the advertisements, because that is why they're doing it. really child appropriate. in that think that that suddenly is one of the components. >> i want to come back to one of the earlier questions and get more specifics. what would you like to see congress do? what cou

with foster parents that reunified with their parents in another country. there needs to be clear policy that makes clear that these families, like all families, deserve a chance, real chance, to be reunified, to come back together, and as is often the case, when agencies, when government is not pro-active about ensuring more equitable outcomes in the case, across borders, other sets of biases and practices get to fill in those holes, and so it's really important that localities begin to take on this issue explicitly. try to make sure that these families can be brought back together as well. >> i think it's clear that coordination of different systems -- the child welfare, the criminal system, the immigration system is necessary but from the perspective of chirp and -- children and families i interviewed, two things must have. deportation of parents must be stopped. chirp are afraid of parents being taken away because they are being taken away and that needs to cease and we have to check the priority of having parents of us citizens not deported. the second

they do have an alleyway that we have encouraged parents to use.ow those intersections can be very hairy. the last point is on supervisor olague's xq many of our kids depend on the muni system to get back and forth from school. particularly in the afternoon, we have seen the data that there are larger public safety issues, and of course, bullying that happens on it muni. it has been an issue i have thought a long time about, but i think we need to work with mta and prioritize that as an issue. i think the highest number of kind of the electronic gadget thaefts happen between 3:00 p.m. and 6:00 p.m. certain bus lines are worse than others. i think the 22, i have heard, it used to be the 15th, and also the one that goes -- there are a couple targeted bus lines. there used to be a program where adults would rise to some of these bus lines -- would rise to some of these bus lines to monitor and mentor on the buses. on some of the bus lines with highs levels of incidents. it is really between 3:00 p.m. and 6:00 p.m., and i hear that fridays are the wors

his parents, right there with him.ted as a young boy, his father, a sanitation worker in new york city. and when his dad saw a flyer offering a free gymnastics class, he signed his son up. by 9, training four hours a day, six days a week. hiss parents help, not lost on the first lady. >> starting when he was just 9 years old, john's mother would drive him an hour or more each way to the gym, six or seven days a week. >> reporter: john's parents would get him to all of his competitions and when there was no money for hotels, they would sleep in the car. john himself as a teenager getting a job while training to help pay the mortgage. he didn't medal in london, but he sure came close. and not surprisingly, this 0 m olympian told me today, it's his parents who are the true heroes. >> to all the parents out there, i just want to say, i know your children are really proud of what you've done and sacrificed and we love you to death. the parents also, too, they sacrifice so much and they're there with you every step of the wa

students must be accompanied by a parent or guardian, and parents, you should bring the child immunization record. this information is available on the website. we do not want a single student to lose precious time this year because we do not have the vaccination. and then last but not least, this friday, we're going to hold a press conference at 11:00 a.m., which we are going to release our state test scores for the 2011-2012 school year. i went to and the report this evening with a teaser. we have received our data, and i can really talk about it until friday, but i will give you the teaser, and that is as you know, these are state tests that we are required to administer to all students in the spring, and while i cannot share details, i will say that when they shared the preliminary results with us and with me, i think i and all of my staff went to bed for the next three days with a huge grin, and i think you will see on friday that the district is continuing to accelerate student learning and continuing to work the achievement gap, which is really the focus of our plan. i nice little t

he was a dpd kid, had a good family although his parents were divorced. we're told he's one of three children. they said bullying was to blame for what happened, although they never expected he would do something like this. >> throughout middle school, he was a good kid. then he started changing a lot. >> reporter: the first question after something like this, people want to know were there warning signs. did anybody know something? the only thing that could have led to something was a facebook status update. it said first day of school -- last day of my life. now this person used the facebook profile called suicidal smile. joce sterman, abc2 news. >> as we go along more details continue to come out. tonight we want to say that the 17-year-old is at shock trauma. police have not released the name of the shooter. he is 15 years old. we'll have much more tonight at 11:00. wait until you hear christian schaffer story about the guidance counselor. you can also get latest information when we're not on the air at abc2news.com. >>> it's been the type of morning

we're not the only parent. we're happy to be the only parent if i think it's the right way to raise my children. oftentimes, parents for safety reasons give their kids a cell phone, not realizing that particularly we're talking about a smart phone, you're handing a mini computer to your child. it's taking the time, it's critical, in a balanced and moderated approach. in my experience, holding off on things like cell phones, even i.m.ing when our kids, lilly we didn't let her i.m. in grade school. it takes away from their homework. technology is wonderful. facebook has a lot of good qualities to it, cell phones do, as well, but age appropriateness is really king. >> you made a point a moment ago about not just educating our children, but educating parents. >> right. >> you make this point in the book, talking about digital tourists or immigrants versus digital natives our kids are digital natives. my child at two and a half years old is going on fancy magazines and wondering why she can't scroll through the maga

world and i hate to say that we have a huge military industrial complex which requires all sorts of parent beating but that's part of the deal frankly as we start to look at managed military operations in iraq and afghanistan the brutal truth is this we have an industry which is looking for new markets there's a hint and i think that's one of the things that you're seeing now is that these individuals these groups large corporations which really are trying to grow by seventy seven percent per year is looking for new markets and i think they're finding new markets and a lot of the areas you just mentioned saying this is all about business. and let's be doubly honest here a lot of europe called or russia to also begin expanding its own arms market back into the lot so this is not just the united states this is a large large global market that the for. frankly the russians and chinese both look as well so i think it's a very right area of competition but they have a mother very far behind at this point the u.s. now. kind of owning it with seventy five or seventy five percent when it comes to

parents are forced to come over to do what we don't understand is a lot of would have been created in latin america particularly in mexico and south of the border with a lot of the violence going on violence fueled by a lot of you know drug policy that we have towards the country it's forcing families who are not putting their children in danger but rather who are looking for the children to have a better life for their future children to have a better life they're looking for the best in their children and when we vilify that when we criminalize that were essentially thing bad our nation have completely closed off to this idea that we are build by immigrants and that we're vilifying and criminalizing those that are making and enriching this country very interesting in a sad situation that many children are finding themselves and thank you so much for coming on the show the picture that i was axel cavalier out founder of the cleanse i'm a. thank you well it's going to wrap it up for tonight but from on the stories we cover check out our you tube channel you tube dot com slash our to a

>> some of the advice -- we talked to parent groups and parents. i will tell you this grows out of conversations with parents. there are some pro active parents in the community that suggested about 10:00 or 11:00 that's enough. they're beginning to take the phones and to say, look, i'll charge it for you and you can have it back in the morning. so, again, you're going to lose any ability to monitor what's happening now that the cell phones give you access all over the house. we just say put the computer by where you make dinner. that doesn't work now. >> i know. you have a lot of things that you want to warn parents about, keeping in touch with their kids about dating, being able to ward off unwanted sexual advances from girls or boys and i know that's something else that you wanted people to know. >> one of the things we're doing is we have a safe teen dating program. whether we talk about internet safety, safe teen dating and gang prevention, my office is available to come out, the pta groups to talk about it. >> that's important to know. >> whe

their parents want them on it. the kids are lying and their parents are helping them to lie to get onto facebook. there'll the brothers and sisters are on it and that is how they communicate in this -- of their older brothers and sisters are on it and that is how they communicate in this world. can we increase the technology to identify these kids earlier answer your and kick them off? or do we of knowledge that is happening and say, you need to have different privacy standards and settings for kids under 13. you ought to have, for example, the same standards that you have on sunday morning cartoons on television for the under 13 crowd. it is a very interesting debate, i think, on how to resolve that. >> why is that your role, or the government's role at some level to police? whether or not kids can go on facebook. isn't that a parental role, just like watching tv? >> parents have a big role on social networks. but very few people know -- a lot more now do, but not every parent knows how they work. not every parent

. >> my question has to do with parenting. >> with what? >> with parenting. yeah, because i think that if parents read to their children, that's the best preparation a child can have for school. because the school's going to teach them how to multiply and so on. and the child will come to respect reading. a couple guys got on the subway the other day, and they came -- i was way in the back of the train, and they must have come back on purpose. and they pulled out newspapers, you know, to show that they read. and they took out the sports section and stuffed the rest of the newspaper in a satchel, so hopefully they're going to be reading some of the front page, you know what i mean? >> okay. >> yeah. >> would you like me to chept on that? >> yeah, sure. >> okay. let me just start with a little story. i, as my good friend who drove me over here, alma roberts, knows and the complete -- i'm a complete sports phobic. i know nothing. and i did not want to raise a child who knew nothing. so as a single parent, single mom i put her in various sports, and she was in, w

isn't that, isn't that a parental, parental role just like watching tv? this. >> guest: the parents have a big role on social networks, but none of them know -- very few people -- certainly, not every parent knows how they work, not every parent is privy to their child's facebook account. and the government has a role because we're there to protect consumers, we're there to protect kids. and if 9-year-olds are on there and they become, you know, are susceptible to other predators and people, we're the ones who have to go after them. and we prefer not to go after them. we prefer not to have a sort of fertile playground for sexual predators on facebook. for example, if you're talking about kids under 13 being on there, how do you make sure no one over 18 can contact them other than their parents or people designated by their parents? for example, their sports coaches or teachers? how far beyond that do you want to get? i would argue not very far because then you get this, the problems that we've had in the past. you know, talking about parents, it's interes

with foster parents that reunified with their parents in another country.there needs to be clear policy that makes clear that these families, like all families, deserve a chance, real chance, to be reunified, to come back together, and as is often the case, when agencies, when government is not pro-active about ensuring more equitable outcomes in the case, across borders, other sets of biases and practices get to fill in those holes, and so it's really important that localities begin to take on this issue explicitly. try to make sure that these families can be brought back together as well. >> i think it's clear that coordination of different systems -- the child welfare, the criminal system, the immigration system is necessary but from the perspective of chirp and -- children and families i interviewed, two things must have. deportation of parents must be stopped. chirp are afraid of parents being taken away because they are being taken away and that needs to cease and we have to check the priority of having parents of us citizens not deported. the second

the district's explanation and why it is not passing with parents >> for some parents at sherman elementary school year has definitely got off to a rocky start >> my daughter comes home and tells me her teacher has been, has left the school and been replaced by a new teacher >> a google search by parents turned up the story in the san francisco weekly which reported that the teacher had been accused in 2009 of banging a child's head on the table at another school and that she was currently facing a second allegation that she brews the another child's arm in 2011. in the first case the district admitted no wrongdoing but paid out $30,000 of a settlement. in the current case the teacher took the fifth when being deposed. >> the people who came there last night were very concerned that the district had fundamentally violated our trust >> when they did not get answers a group of them went to district headquarters and cornered the new superintendent >> we heard this teacher was going to be placed in training out of the classroom >> in a statement the district said " teachers have a right to due

viewed as an embarrassment by her parents. shafilea ahmed was born in britain.arents raised her and her siblings in the small town of warrington, where iftikar worked as a taxi driver. plenty of people in warrington knew the family, but no one was willing to talk to us on camera. as though the entire town wanted to put the tragedy behind them. one taxi driver who worked with the father described him as an ordinary man with a temper. neighbors described shafilea as a quiet girl that would slip out of her high heel shoes and cover up her short sleeve tops a block before reaching home. but it was at school that the first warning signs emerged. this is where shafilea went to school and it was her teachers who repeatedly raised the alarm, calling social services when she missed class, when she showed up to school with bruises on her arms. once with bruises around her neck and a cut on her face. and it was her teacher, not her parents, who reported her missing to police in september 2003. after months of searching, her body was found in the river kent. badly decompose